Learning To Let Go Of What Other People Think Of Me

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I’m a people pleaser and I never want to upset or let people down or let people down, or have people think badly of me. I’m a worrier, I worry about every little thing known to man and it could literally be the most insignificant thing in the world and I would feel like the world is crashing in on me and I don’t know how to deal with it. The problem with caring about what others think of it you, is it gives other people control over your emotions.

I’ve been going through a phase where I’ve got such heightened emotions and I’ve been overthinking everything down to the last minute detail and honestly it is so bloody draining. However I’ve got to the point where I am thinking about the people whose opinions matter, I mean people on the street who have opinions of me do they really matter?

The answer to that will always be no.

I’ve learned lately that there will always be people who think negatively of you, who will always find a way to try and bring you down, but those opinions are the ones that genuinely don’t matter. They are the people who don’t know you, probably wouldn’t give you a second thought and those are the people I don’t need in my life, and neither do you.

So how am I letting go of others and what they think of me?

Know who is important and who isn’t

I have made my circle slightly smaller lately, I’ve been focusing my energy on the people that matter, the people who are there for me and vice versa and the people who genuinely make the effort. These are the people that I want in my life. The people who keep you strong when you genuinely need it, and these are the people whose opinions I appreciate because they come from a good place.

Making your circle smaller has definitely helped me in the long term because I don’t feel like I need to spread myself so thin or make the effort with people don’t matter.

Know that you are worth the world

I’m still learning my worth if I am honest. I always try to remember to treat myself like I would my best friend, but if I’m honest I am the worst at it. I’m not great at treating myself well. I’m hard on myself, I can be mean to myself -especially when it comes to my ability to do anything, but knowing your worth is so hard. It is an important to remember that you are a ridiculously talented human, who is important and has so much to give the world. Sometimes we all need to be reminded of that, especially on difficult days.

Surround yourself with inspirational people

I am surrounded by the most incredible people. Genuinely. Like I said earlier, I have made my circle a lot smaller lately, because I genuinely do not have time for, but I have surrounded myself with people who make me a better person, who can make me feel stronger and less like I am failing at this game called life. They are also people who make me feel like I can be myself around, I don’t have to put on this mask of strength, I can cry if I need to, laugh until my sides hurt and I know I can trust them. These are the people that I want in my life.

I’m not 100% there yet if I’m honest, but I am working on it. I’m working at letting go of what other people think of me and focusing all my energy on positivity. Let’s be honest, life is way too short to focus on anything other than happiness.

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