Confidence is hard, and I feel like we all need a confidence boost occasionally. On the days were your confidence is low and you need a bit of help, here are my top tips that you need to prepare you for those bad days.
01. Learn to manage your stress
This is one that I still find hard to this day, mainly because we all get stressed, and we all deal with it differently.
But there is a balance, there is good stress that gives us the motivation to keep going and we can balance our life.
There is also bad stress that impacts our wellbeing, how we work, our home life, and we just feel overwhelmed.
Lately however, I’ve been trying to pinpoint what is causing me stress, planning my days out. If there are ways to take things off my plate or if I’m feeling like there are things that won’t get done, I can speak to my manager.
When I’m stressed I know for certain I’m not confident.
02. Let go of the comparisons
I’m so guilty of this, I will compare my life and where I’m at in my life as well as everything I’ve achieved.
Especially when it comes to social media, it is basically comparison minefield. Your don’t have to live your life the way that other’s do. The other thing is, just because someone lives one way, doesn’t mean it will work for you.
Everyone is different, and that is what makes the world go round.
Comparisons are the thief of joy.
When you start comparing your life, take a step bad, remind yourself of a few things:
- make a list of what you’re good at and your strengths
- 3 things that make you feel good about yourself
- things you’re proud of or that you’ve achieved
- 2 things you like about yourself.
These things don’t have been huge life changing things, they can be small things too.
When you write a sentence saying you’re good at something, don’t put a but after. Do not diminish what you’re good at. Your achievements are limitless.
03. Be your own cheerleader
Following on from comparisons, be your own cheerleader. There is no one else in this world that can get you to where you want to be in your life.
You deserve to believe in yourself, and the good things that come from those efforts. Whether it is learning a new skill, trying something new, getting out of your comfort zone. Remind yourself you’ve got this.
I know from personal experience, I’m my own worst critic, but what do I get out of belittling myself and telling myself I’m not good enough? Absolutely nothing.
If you start to think that this isn’t something you can’t do, take a step back, ask yourself why you’re saying this to yourself. Why are you limiting yourself?
That critical voice in your head saying “what’s the point in trying?” or “I’m not good enough”, remind yourself that:
- you are good enough
- good things can come out of those situations
- you never know what you can achieve until you try
- anything is truly possible in this life if you’re passionate.
Do not let your inner critic or even those outer critics stop you from getting to where you want to be in your life.
This is your life, your rules.
04. Surround yourself with positive people
It is so important to surround yourself with positive people, and they have an impact on your life. Positive people can help you to feel more confident, your opinion of yourself changes too.
The people I have surrounded myself with people who:
- support me
- who encourage me
- who remind me I can achieve anything.
These relationships have helped me to build a better relationship with myself, as well as the people around me.
05. Practice gratitude
This is one that I’ve learned a lot about over the years. Gratitude plays a massive part in your life and can also boost your confidence when you need it the most. It allows you to put those everyday things that we sometimes take for granted and put them into perspective. It also makes you realise that there are some things that don’t matter in life.
During lockdown, I took for granted just being able to go and get a cup of coffee and have a chat, but it reminds you to appreciate those moments.
Read 50 things to be grateful for
These are my favourite ways to give myself a confidence boost, what ways do you boost your self confidence?
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Great post. Comparing to others really can be a confidence booster, it’s the one I need to work on the most.
Corinne x
I am trying to do all of this things at the moment. Started surrounding myself with positive people a while ago and daily gratitude is a must. Something that’s really working.
Thanks for these tips.
such great reminders here! these are all so true and i’ve noticed, when i focus on these mindsets, my wellbeing and confidence def gets a boost! 🙂
Practicing gratitude is something that I practice every day as it definitely helps my confidence! A great post Amie! x
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I’d like to think I’m pretty good at most of these. Something I do need to work on though is managing and pinpointing stress. I definitely struggle with juggling different aspects of my life and this can bring on quite a bit of stress. I need to lower my expectations really of what’s realistically achievable on a day to day basis. Fab post as always my love.
Claire.X
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Hi Amie,
Excellent suggestions, thank you.
There is nothing wrong with using comparisons to give you drive and determination but you need to make sure that it doesn’t make you envious and miserable – balance it out by being grateful for what you already have (and that doesn’t have to be material things – good relationships are hugely valuable).
Fully agree with the positivity approach too. Most people are either radiators (they radiate positive, happy thoughts) or drains (they suck the enjoyment out of everything!) – pick your associations carefully 🙂
Ah I absolutely love this, totally agree with surrounding yourself with positive people! Also going to save that list of things to do when you’re comparing on my phone as a little reminder to myself whenever that happens!
Amy x
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Some very valid points here! I’m so bad at self confidence but defo agree with gratitude, surrounding yourself with positive people and being your own cheerleader! We need to love our selves and respect ourselves if we want anyone else to do right 🥰 xx
Fab tips! I really need to work on finding better ways to manage my stress, I think that would really help. I really want to get into the habit of practicing gratitude more too. Thanks for sharing x
Being your own cheerleader is cool.
Letting go of comparisons is something I need to let go of but it’s often easier said than done. I go through phases where I feel really confident and like nothing can knock me back down. And then the low confidence gloom appears from nowhere and it’s hard to shake it!
Rosie
Great advice. So important in these fast-moving times. Really uplifting, thank you.
Really helpful self confidence boosters here. Recently I have realized more tge importance of the people we choose to be around with. It can be a life changing to have around you people who believe on you and have a positive attitude towards life.
This is such a valuable post. I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of comparison so much recently and it just leaves me with sad and bitter feelings and I’d really like to avoid that. Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for sharing this! x So true, we need some confidence boost to face our everyday work. I keep people who are encouraging and optimistic. They bring out the best in us.
So true! These are the things I’m doing now to achieve a healthy confidence level. Thank you for sharing. Good post.
I LOVE this! Reading this at the exact right time as I’ve been having a confidence crisis a bit recently, so I’m taking all of your advice and tips on board. Thank you for sharing this xx
This was a lovely post! I am constantly comparing myself to others even without realising sometimes, I definitely need to learn how to stop doing that! I love the idea of being your own cheerleader! X
I really love the idea in your first point where you’ve been trying to plan out your days and seeing where the stress in your life comes from. This is so smart! I’ve never thought of doing this. have you managed to find any point which has helped you decrease your stress?
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excellent post.
Being your own cheerleader is a great tip! I think sometimes we rely on others for praise- which is never a good idea. Getting praise and confidence from yourself is the best way to give yourself a little boost, for sure x
LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!!!! I agree with be your own cheerleader. If you are not cheering for yourself how can you expect other to do it too.
Being our own cheerleader is so important; even if we don’t feel like doing it we should keep doing it as it’s a great boost for our confidence. I don’t always believe myself but by consistently doing it it just sort of seeps into my mindset and improves it. Thanks for the other tips, anything that helps give us more confidence is always much needed!
Some great tips! Surrounding yourself with positive people makes such a difference x
Thanks for sharing this sweetie!
Danielle | thereluctantblogger.co.uk
Comparisons are definitely something I struggle with the most – it’s something I need to try harder with and “let go” of xx
Surrounding yourself with positive people makes such a difference. When people are negative it can rub off on you.