Now we all talk about being selfish, like it is honestly a bad thing. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t, but a lot of the time it is something which is 100% necessary. I know I am the kind of person that isn’t the greatest at prioritising myself, I mean I try, I mean I really try but I seem to always fall short and something always comes up.
Being selfish is sometimes about self preservation, it’s about doing what is best for you before everything feels too much and you feel like you’re completely overwhelmed with emotions.
The kind of selfish that I’m talking about is about the small things like giving yourself a bit of a break, turning off your social media because it is literally just too much. We all need a break to be honest!
There have been a lot of things that have happened and I’ve had a lot on my mind, to the point where things have piled up and piled up and I’ve honestly needed a break to be honest. To be able to get everything that I need to done, I’ve had to say no and I’m not good with saying no.
I am the kind of person that always feels guilty when it comes to saying no, I’d rather overextend myself if it meant helping someone else than anything else.
So instead lately I’ve been trying to give myself a moment some time to be able to take a deep breath in and not feel like there is the weight of the world on my shoulders.
Everyone needs to be selfish, everyone deserves to be selfish, everyone needs to stop thinking that being selfish is a bad thing. It isn’t.
We all need to do what is best for ourselves, and do you know what? When you do that, it works wonders for you, your physical, mental and emotional health, they’re all so important and by being selfish it helps you to look after all those things.
So when you’re having a moment, you feel completely overwhelmed by everything that is going on in your life and you feel like you need a break, take it. Take it with both hands, put your phone on mute, take a bubble bath, do the things that you need to do in order to keep yourself happy and healthy in every way possible.
When you do that it makes life a little easier, it makes your smile a little wider, your eyes a little brighter, and you have a little more motivation to do the things you want in life.
As long as you’re not upsetting or hurting someone, or dragging someone else down, be selfish, do what you need to to make sure you’re okay and your needs are taken care of.
It’s self preservation, not selfishness.
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I agree! We are taught that taking time out or doing what’s good for you is selfish. I find if I don’t look after myself, needs and wants etc then I become run down, ill and a bit resentful. It’s not good for anyone when that happens. Take the time and do whatever you need to, in order to keep your self thriving is what I think. Although I’m a work in progress myself!
I know what you mean, and there is nothing worse than being run down and ill. I totally agree with what you’ve said my darling xxxx
I am terrible at this, always feeling like I have to spend time with friends and family rather than some time on myself. It’s like this obligation that I cannot escape and I feel guilty when I choose time alone.
We are all guilty of it, but don’t feel guilty my darling, you’re amazing and you should always remember the importance of putting yourself first! xxxx
I totally agree Amie and “it’s self preservation, not selfishness” is the QUOTE OF THE DAY!
Amen my darling! Look after yourself! It’s important! xxxx
I totally agree with everything you’ve said, sometimes being selfish is a necessity! I’m always putting other people first and going out of my way and whilst that’s a nice thing to do, I really don’t take enough time to do things for me without worrying about what others think. Loved this xx
Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk
We need to do what is best for ourselves sometimes, and even though it’s not easy, you need to remember what is best for you! xxxx
I think being selfish is good in some situations (like self-care for example), but can also be taken the wrong way if you take too much from someone for example. The bad connotations with being selfish definitely need to be stamped out as it’s not so bad to be selfish!
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I totally agree, it’s all about balance to be honest my lovely! xxxx
I don’t think it’s selfish to put yourself first sometimes. It’s a strength to recognise it x
I totally agree my lovely, we all need to remember it’s not selfish to look after yourself! xxxx
Taking time out for yourself should never be viewed as selfish, it’s necessary x
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Amen to that my lovely! xxxx
Ive recently learnt and am still learning to put myself first. It has felt good. I feel a sense of liberation when I say no to situations that usually make me feel miserable. But lately ive been checking if my self preservation is turning into selfishness. Im being more mindful in this regard.
It’s good to be mindful my lovely, but remember it’s always important to do what is best for you my lovely! xxx
I totally agree with this post. I think the word selfish has so many negative connotations, and I think it is so important to take time for yourself. I’m not great at taking time to myself but I’m trying to make more of an effort.
Hels 💗
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I think we all need to do that sometimes, say no, curl up in bed and put yourself first! xxxx
Anyone can be selfish sometimes, it isn’t a bad thing! But if you’re being selfish all the time, it’s not quite nice. It’s important to take time for yourself! Enjoyed this post.
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Thank you so much my lovely, it means a lot! There has to be a balance and if there is, that is okay! xxxx
I totally agree with you…self-care is so important, even if at times it can feel like you are being ‘selfish’. Sometimes everyone needs to do something for themselves rather than always doing for others. Like you said as long as you are not harming anyone else, take that time.
Your post really gets you thinking!
Aimsy xoxo
Exactly, as long as it isn’t hurting anyone, everything should be okay! xxxxx
I totally agree with you! It is so important to think of self-care and try to worry less about being “selfish”. It makes so much difference just having even a small time and to do things for yourself. Great post as aways Amie!
Melissa 🌙 | Moonlight Mel
Thank you so much my lovely, I really appreciate it! Being selfish isn’t always a bad thing! xxxx
I think being selfish can be healthy when in moderation. I am learning how to put myself first because quite simply people do like to abuse when someone is just ‘too nice’. Love, Iga http://www.igaberry.com
I know what you mean my lovely, you have to have a balance and saying no is so important! xxxx
There are times when you simply have to be ‘selfish’ otherwise we end up doing more damage to ourselves in the long run. x
I totally know what you mean my lovely, the last thing you want is to be run down! xxxx
I think people need to come to term with the fact that putting yourself first is not being selfish. As you said, it is self preservation. Caring about others is great but not when it is as the expense of your own happiness.
Exactly Corrine! You should never sacrifice your own happiness! xxxx
This is such an honest post. I completely agree with you. You definitely need to be selfish at times! I feel like people try to be people pleasers too often and that means they end up doing things they don’t actually want to do!
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I’m definitely such a people pleaser, but sometimes we have to put ourselves first! xxxx
Everyone needs to read this post! It’s way too easy in today’s society to be operating on 110%, even when you know you’re burning out, that stopping and putting ‘you’ first is often forgotten. Great post!
Thank you so much my lovely! People should have to be at the point of burn out just to please others! xxxx
I love this post and completely agree with you. Sometimes it’s 100% necessary to put yourself first and I don’t even class that as selfish!
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I totally agree, putting yourself first is preservation! xxxx
Love it!! Wish everyone could feel like this – nothing bad about a bit of me time!
Me time is definitely necessary! xxxx
Sometimes being selfish is the best feeling in the world, in this day and age everyone needs to think of themselves at somepoint just to maintain sanity. I personally believe that if you take the time to appreciate and love yourself, and treat yourself in the way you deserve, you will be able to help others far more than you thought possible. Care begins internally, love the post <3
Erin || MakeErinOver
I literally couldn’t have put it better myself my darling, you have said it perfectly my lovely! xxxx
It’s ok to be selfish and take a break xx
I totally agree my lovely, we all need a break sometimes and to do what is best for you! xxxx
I think there is good selfishness (like self care) and bad selfishness (to the detriment of others) and I think it’s important to be selfish in a good way. You’re totally right, it’s self-preservation.
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Amen my lovely, it’s important to know the difference and to do what is best for you! xxxx
It is so important to be a bit selfish! It improves happiness for sure!
I totally agree, we all need to do what is best for us sometimes! xxxx
I couldn’t agree more! It’s so hard to say no to people!
Rosie
I know what you mean my darling! But we all need to be selfish sometimes, it’s necessary! xxxx
Love this post Amie! I think taking time out for ourselves is absolutely necessary. My favourite thing to do is have a bubble bath with some YouTube and a hot choc. Perfect! Thank you for sharing <3 xx
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Ooh that sounds absolutely perfect my lovely! xxxxx
Totally agree with this love and will need to start switching off and having more me time.
I think we all need to do it more often, It works wonders! xxxx
Such an important post and I totally agree. We all need that space for ourselves.
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Exactly, space always makes a massive difference! xxxx
I totally understand!
Being selfish is so important! xxxx
I loved reading this post! I too find it so hard to say no sometimes, I worry about what people will think of me and if I should push myself to do things despite not wanting to. Being selfish is completely an act of self care and I want to be kinder to myself in regards to taking time out of a busy day! Thank you so much for posting lovely!
Love Casey
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You have to do what is best for you my darling, that is what is most important!xxxx
I totally agree with this principle: a pinch of selfishness is a survival resource sometimes. Specially when we talk about toxic dynamics or people. I believe it is actually a self-care technique which should be not underestimated/dismissed.
I wrote on this last month, especifically on how to survive toxic people during holiday.
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I think we all need to be selfish sometimes, being a yes person is great but then you end up burning yourself out for others when you need time to yourself! xxxx
oh yes yes yes!
Being selfish sometimes is definitely needed!
also, i didnt realise how local you were to me!!!
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Love this!
Thank you so much for sharing this because I know about 100 people who could do with reading this right now!
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