A lot of people will know, I struggle with self confidence, even though I have a tough exterior and I come across like I could take on the world, in all honesty I am not as strong as you might think. I always need a good confidence boost but not only that there are lots of things that I do that really does boost my confidence, however it does take time for me to be able to boost my confidence. People often ask me how come you’re so confident? But I’m not, I feel like I have to put on a façade for people, it’s like my power armour, you can’t go out without it. It’s like walking out the door naked, very few people would, but if I act confident, it’s a way of people not asking me what is wrong or if I am okay. Want to find out how I increase my self confidence? Let’s go.
1. Focus On The Things You Love About Yourself
This might sound strange, but there is always something you like about yourself, it can be your smile, your eyes, your shape, your strength, it’s the little things that mean a lot. Instead of focusing on the things that you hate it can help to just change the way you think about things.
2. Accept That We All Make Mistakes
Nothing kills self confidence more than beating yourself up over the fact that you’ve done something wrong, I have learned this lesson the hard way. I’ve learned that it is okay to make mistakes, own it, accept it, and remember that you’re not your mistakes, you’re not any of that, you’re an incredible person!
3. Compliment Yourself Daily
This is one that I am honestly still struggling with, because it can be quite difficult especially if people might think you’re being a little shallow, however it is something that I am learning well. I’ve learned it’s the little things like complimenting myself for making an amazing breakfast or when I get my eyeliner perfect.
4. Look At The Positives
Remember that saying where people say when a door closes a window opens Well it’s true, just because something hasn’t gone the way that you wanted it, doesn’t mean that it won’t happen for you. It just takes time, look at what you’ve learned from the experience, what have you gained? It will be okay, remember that.
5. Help Others
I find this incredibly helpful which is why I do a lot of tips on my blog to hopefully help others in the long term, I find being able to support others helps me to boost my self confidence immensely. It gives me a lot of hope that people do feel less alone in the long run.
6. Celebrate Yourself
This is so important because when you’re looking at the negatives so much you forget the fantastic person you are. And never forget that. Celebrate when things go right, and when things go wrong because you never know how it could work out in the long term.
I still have a lot to learn in terms of self love and self confidence but the important thing is, I’m trying my best, I’m trying to better myself and everything I do, and when I am self confident then it will reflect in the rest of my life. I don’t want to be constantly hating myself and picking flaws in myself because it really is exhausting physically and emotionally and I know that I deserve so much better than that. Self confidence is a journey that won’t ever be easy, it’s not going to be straight forward, but I know that it will be a journey where I can excel and make a huge impact upon my life.
I hope one day that maybe I’ll live in a world where I don’t feel the pressure of society to be a certain size or look a certain way, we can live in hope right?
Do you feel the same? What are you tips for building your self confidence? Leave your response in the comments!
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