Unfollowing People Is Okay

Unfollowing People Is Okay

There are so many people who do the follow/unfollow thing in blogging, and sometimes it can get seriously annoying, I mean anyone ever had one of those people who follow and unfollow you about 100 times just to get you to follow them? Yep it gets a little boring and tiresome, to the point I usually want to block them, because I’m so friendly like that. However there are people who I follow and sometimes when their content just doesn’t speak to me like it used to or maybe I’m just not their target audience anymore.

Now I might sound like a bit of a cow, or maybe I’m just coming across as a snob but I promise there is a reason for unfollowing. I don’t just do it when I get bored, or as a happy past time, there is always some sort of reason. We all do it at some point, whether it is celebrities, friends, brands, pr companies, any of them, we have all done it.

It is important to remind people that I am never the type of person who would want to go out and offend someone, that isn’t me, I do take other people’s feelings into account, however I sometimes have to put myself first, I have to do what is best for my own mental health and my own happiness.

Sometimes I unfollow people because I am just not inspired by their content any more. I like to follow people who I am so inspired by and keep me on my blogging toes, that is nothing against the person that I have unfollowed, it might be that we have different niches or different audiences. I still respect the person that I have unfollowed and appreciate their work and talent that they have for writing.

Sometimes I unfollow people because we genuinely never talk, and I don’t expect every single person that I follow to speak to me all day everyday, although it would be fabulous right? But I would probably run out of time to do things like eat, drink, sleep and spend time with my husband. I like to feel like I can relate to the people I follow but also have a friendship with them, which for me is incredibly important.

I have before unfollowed people because of the way that they are with people, one person would constantly lie to people about certain things and would always get caught out on social media, other times people were genuinely rude. Now I know that there can’t always be positive vibes everywhere and I respect that because there always has to be some negativity in the world, however because of my mental health I try to surround myself with as many positive vibes as possible. I am on the path to recovery, I don’t want people calling each other horrendous names in an argument, I don’t want constant negativity all over my feed, but there is always a need for balance, no one can ever be 100% positive, I understand that there will be times when people get down and that is also okay.

It is important to remember that if someone unfollows you, as hard as it might be for you, don’t take it personally, sometimes people have their reasons, sometimes people don’t relate to you anymore, sometimes people just don’t feel inspired by you anymore, and that is okay, but don’t let that affect your goals!

To the people who I have unfollowed, I’m very sorry if you have taken it personally, it wasn’t my intention, you’re an incredible person, blogger and you are going to go onto great things. I wish you the best.

What are your thoughts on unfollowing? Have you had these types of things happen to you? Leave your response in the comments!

Love Amie 2016

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29 Comments

  1. 03/09/2016 / 8:31 am

    To me this totally makes sense! I try to keep the number of people I’m following to around 100-150 which may seem like next to nothing but I follow these people because I want to know what they have to say and what they get up to. If I can see them in a forest of voices on my feed I think my Twitter experience would be a lot less pleasant. I have to admit that don’t always follow people back because I don’t see the point if I’m not into their content (exception for people I genuinely get along with). Reasons to unfollow for me are mainly when people retweet a gazillion posts a day (especially if I don’t care for the content) and when they’re constantly moaning about their life. Like you said, can’t always be 100% positive but moaning all day everyday doesn’t help anyone.

    Have a nice day Amy 🙂

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:38 pm

      That is so important Anissa, if you’re not into their content why should you follow them? The important thing is you do what makes you happy! Don’t ever feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to! <3

  2. 03/09/2016 / 8:47 am

    I think it is completely fair to unfollow somebody if you have tried and seen what they are all about. However, I find it the most annoying when people follow just for the attention!

    Lii

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:40 pm

      I know right? Or if they just follow to unfollow, it is so annoying! <3

  3. 03/09/2016 / 3:08 pm

    I think it’s extremely annoying when people play the follow/unfollow game countless times, I mean, can’t they understand after the second time I’m not following them? If I wanted to, I would have done by the first time! Apart from that, I don’t think that’s anything wrong with unfollowing other people, I’ve done it myself several times. It’s nothing personal, I still think they’re nice, I still think they have nice photos but their content doesn’t interests me anymore. The last couple of months my interests have been gradually changing which means I’ll be following some blogs I wasn’t following previously and maybe I’ll be unfollowing some others that I don’t relate anymore. I think it’s beneficial for both parts. If people just keep following others and then always ignore their content then what’s the point of having followers if there’s no engagement? I think unfollowing is ok. 🙂 xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:45 pm

      I am totally with you Rita! I think it is incredibly important that people do what makes you happy and you shouldn’t feel bad for unfollowing someone. At the end of the day if you’re not interested in their content anymore why should you follow, your blog, your accounts, you follow who you like! <3

  4. 03/09/2016 / 3:15 pm

    I totally feel you on this one! Sometimes I just lose touch with a person or celebrity and I can no longer relate to them so I press the dreaded unfollow button. I like to try and keep up with everyone/everything on my social media feeds which I know is pretty impossible because I follow a couple of hundred people, but every now and then I’ll axe someone that just isn’t doing it for me anymore(DO I SOUND LIKE A BITCH PHRASING IT LIKE THAT haha)
    love to you as always x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:47 pm

      You don’t sound like a bitch at all! At the end of the day you should do what you like with your accounts and follow the people you want. It is very difficult to keep up with everyone but I try my absolute best! <3

  5. 03/09/2016 / 10:04 pm

    Totally makes sense! I do unfollow people every now and then simply because either their content won’t speak to me anymore or I just don’t like what I’m seeing. Half the time it’s nothing personal. eleanor x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:48 pm

      Exactly, it isn’t anything personal but sometimes it is just that you’re not feeling what they’ve posted. It’s noting against that person it is just the way you feel at that time! <3

  6. 04/09/2016 / 5:45 pm

    Not going to lie I get extremely upset when someone I have a mutual follow with unfollows me because I felt like I have a friendship with them and they go an unfollow me, I just think it’s rude when I’ve been nothing but nice. But I totally understand your reasons for unfollowing people and I’m sure other people have the same reasons. I probably do the same and I don’t even realise. You don’t need to apologize or justify yourself for unfollowing people Aime don’t worry as long as you’re happy and you’re in the right frame of mind then that’s all that matters. Thankyou for this post it really helped me to become a little more open minded on this topic 🙂

    Claire ❤ | My Little Memoir

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:50 pm

      Exactly, and I know that feeling of being extremely upset when someone who you have a friendship with unfollows, but I promise you that you’re still an incredible blogger and you’ve got an beautiful journey to go on! <3

  7. 05/09/2016 / 3:07 pm

    There are certain people who I follow, and who follow me, that I consider friends who I’d be upset about unfollowing me. But generally, I don’t really mind. I know sometimes my twitter account comes across a little spammy, because I post a lot of promotional tweets and some days not much else. Some people might find that annoying and unfollow. I get that. Or they might not find me inspiring. Or like my content. That’s fine too. The people who really annoy me are those who follow/unfollow/follow/unfollow to try to get you to get follow them. It doesn’t make me want to follow you – it makes me want to block you! I’ve got two people like that on IG right now. Seriously peeing me off. I recently went on a big unfollowing ‘spree’ on Twitter because I was just following too many people – I couldn’t even hope to keep up with my feed and it was clogged with stuff I didn’t really care about. It’s good to unfollow sometimes – for the right reasons! x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:53 pm

      I totally get that, I do a lot of promotion too, but I am trying to focus on the positives and if people don’t like my tweets that is their decision, I’m still fabulous! <3

  8. 05/09/2016 / 7:18 pm

    I completely get why people unfollow especially your reasons. I tend to unfollow people on Instagram whose photos I’m not a fan of but a lot of the time it’s taken personally which I don’t want either like you. What does annoy me a little bit though is when people unfollow because you didn’t like their photos aha. Lovely post xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:56 pm

      Exactly you should always unfollow people who you don’t feel their content! I know that feeling, I do however find it really annoying when people follow only to unfollow later! <3

  9. 05/09/2016 / 9:11 pm

    Totally relate to this, I love trying to make online friends but if after a while they’re just not my vibe or I’m following something that isn’t inspiring me, you just gotta be a bit ruthless. Else you would be scrolling all day long! Fab blog honey x

    Y x | http://www.thesweetsevenfive.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/09/2016 / 2:58 pm

      Thank you so much Yasmin! I’m the same I love making online friends, it is one of the greatest feelings ever! <3

  10. 06/09/2016 / 7:12 pm

    This was a great post and I couldn’t agree more. Sounds silly but I unfollowed all of Tanya Burrs channels yesterday because I was fed up of seeing how let down everyone is/are about her book and now her prints. Its not her follows fault, I just got fed up of how rushed things seem to be with her and I just wasn’t interested in makeup makeup makeup all the time. There, I’ve confessed haha :’D
    http://www.elliswoolley.blogspot.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      10/09/2016 / 6:46 pm

      That is totally okay, I know that I’m not a lot of the big bloggers demographics, I mean I am not the kind of person they are going to target, but I appreciate that, I do admit a lot of her stuff seems to be rushed, she is a fab blogger and good at what she does I just wish it didn’t seem so rushed! <3

  11. 14/09/2016 / 9:26 am

    I usually don’t unfollow people unless they’re unknown or non inspiring people. I hate that people follow and then unfollow like it’s nothing. If they don’t like my content they shouldn’t follow me in the first place. It hurts…

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      20/09/2016 / 8:30 am

      I know that feeling, that is something that I have been having to deal with but if they don’t want to follow your journey then that is their loss, you’re an incredibly person and you don’t need them! <3

  12. Sarah
    27/09/2016 / 9:51 am

    You’re so right about this, as someone trying to build up a genuine following of people that will be interested in my content, I won’t be offended if someone I follow doesn’t follow me back if they have no desire to read what I publish – we don’t all have the same interests! And if someone were to unfollow me, as long as it’s not for the whole “you didn’t follow me back” thing, then no problems! The whole follow for follow thing is totally strange to me. It’s brilliant to show support for other bloggers, but I’d much rather a genuine comment on a post or a re-tweet if someone likes what I’ve said than a follower who will never engage with my content. A meaningless follow for the sake of appearing friendly can actually be counter-productive. Though, I usually try to check out a persons various social media channels if they follow/like a tweet/post etc. because maybe their blog isn’t my thing, but they might have a cracking instagram or hilarious tweets.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      27/09/2016 / 7:44 pm

      I totally agree sweetheart, it can be so hard to build a genuine following but it is so worth it darling, I don’t tend to do follow for follow because I want people to follow my blog because they like it! <3

  13. 26/11/2016 / 4:47 pm

    Hey Amie.

    I’m in the middle of an unfollow cull on Facebook and Twitter at the moment. With me it’s usually the big issues like racism, and anti LGBTIQ sentiments which are the killers but lack of activity/ communication and rudeness to either me or my friend is an immediate and lifetime ban.

    In my most recent purge I got rid of a poet who when it suits them will call by my proper name but who as recently as two weeks ago misgendered me in public in front of one his male friends.

    Now, whilst he his friend may find that amusing to me it was blatant transphobia and that was his final chance. I had let him away with it before in the hope he’d improve but it wasn’t to be so eventually had to go. I can take so much but I’ll take no more.

    When I unfriend or unfollow there is always a reason

    Lots Of Love
    Gayle XXX

  14. 19/12/2016 / 10:00 pm

    I never feel guilty for unfollowing someone; I see it as sometimes they don’t inspire me anymore and so I unfollow. Simple as that. Plus I also found I followed so many people on twitter, I couldn’t keep track / up to speed with my twitter feed, so had a cull / clear out.

  15. 14/01/2017 / 9:42 pm

    I typically don’t follow those who follow and unfollow me repeatedly! It was shock to see them keep coming back and it kinda got on my nerves. I just don’t want to deal with unstable people who could not make up their mind in what they wanted.

  16. 29/01/2017 / 4:02 am

    I don’t mind the follow/unfollow thing. I can just treat them like spams. I don’t care about unfollowing either because I know I just not interest them anymore. I will try to make higher quality and still post what I love.
    I just feel annoyed and sad when people follow you, and once you follow them back, they immediately unfollow you (like within 6 hours). I mean if you follow me, it means at that moment there is something interest you. If my content turns you off, why it always when I follow you back? I got these people a lot on Instagram. I really doubt where their 10k+ followers come from. And I am not the only one who gets in this trick. (I saw some people comment on their post.) Now I just ignore new followers. ( I just like their photos) I only focus on those who comments and follow people who I really look up to.
    I think I just take it too seriously, so I am like whatever about these follow/unfollow things. I really like you write about this, and I love your honesty.

  17. 05/04/2017 / 12:47 am

    This 100%! I feel like social media in general will become such a better experience when we all start to unfollow all the junk we followed years a go. Ive gone as far to unfriend people on facebook i added when i first got it because of the “mutual friends” add phase. Now when i go on facebook its such a better experience because i see stuff from people i now care about – not bitchy just the truth