It is the age old phrase isn’t it, in the words of Thumper, if you can’t saying nothing nice, don’t say nothing at all but alas there are always people out there who feel like their opinion is more important. It is like a swift screw anyone else’s feelings, they don’t matter. I’ve had a lot of that recently where people feel like they are entitled to make nasty comments about others just because that is exactly how they feel. Whether it is about food they are eating or what they wear, people everywhere just can’t be bloody nice.
I was in Brighton for 2 nights with my husband and we literally had the best time filled with good food and quality time together, but people still felt the need to comment on the things that I was wearing, the food I was eating and muttering under their breath.
I am plus size, and I am proud of that, I work out, I eat healthy, I walk a lot, I am not an unhealthy person but the fact that someone can look at mean and instantly determine my health from the way I look is ridiculous. Since when has health been determined from how you look? I’m pretty sure that isn’t how it works….
These people also weren’t quiet, but Paul didn’t hear them (thank god!) but they made it clear that they were talking about me by pointing towards me, looking towards me as they spoke. I mean they couldn’t have made it more obvious.
I have a thick skin, I can take it, but why do people think that kind of behaviour is okay? I mean these people weren’t kids, they were fully grown adults – is this the kind of culture we really want to live in.
Just because I may not look the way that others do, just because I have stretch marks in every place, I have rolls rather than abs, I have lumps and bumps but I am happy. I don’t overindulge but I don’t restrict myself, I don’t get too caught up on calories, I work on the nutritional value of my food, and I live a happy life.
There is a reason for this post, and a lot of people will understand this already, but to the people who don’t.
Please remember that yes it is okay to have an opinion, and yes not everyone is going to like the same things you are, wear the same fashion, enjoy the same music or even the same activities. That does not give you license to be a dick about it.
People have feelings, what you can say, especially when it comes to what people eat and how they look can have such an impact on others that you will never even realise. Just because it isn’t for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t make someone else super happy.
At the end of the day never let someone else’s comments stop you from doing your thang. Smile, eat the cupcake, wear the crop top, dance in the rain, whatever makes you smile, just do you.
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I am fully on board with this post. Why would you ever want to make someone feel negative about themselves? I genuinely don’t understand it.. It makes everyone, including yourself, so much happier when you make someone else smile. Anyone who puts others down is simply projecting their own negative feelings towards themselves, and it’s sad xx
People can be horrible, can’t they? You have such a beautiful outlook, and this post is so relevant! Don’t let the haters spoil anything!
People always make stupid comments to people about how they look and act when there isn’t any need xx
That’s so rude and uncalled for for anyone to be making comments on what anyone is wearing or what someone is eating – it’s like you said if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say it, so sorry to hear this happened to you!! Health can never be determined by how you look – the only way health can be determined is by a doctor and by how the person feels day-to-day.
The most important thing is that you’re getting all your nutrition – I personally also don’t count calories, I tried to once but it never became a habit of mine to keep.
Yes so much to your ending line – no matter what people say it’s important to just live your best life! Keep on smiling, you’re doing amazing 🙂
I cannot stand people that are just rude for no reason, there is literally just no need for it! Don’t let those people get you down. There are so many nasty people in the world but there I think there’s so many more nice people too! X
I`m sorry you had to go through that, people can be so nasty sometimes. I also agree with what you said in the beginning, we shouldn`t say mean things to people we don`t know. However, I also feel that we should be able to hold others accountable for their actions. You should find a polite way to address your concerns, but if someone promotes negative behaviours, you should be able to call them out. I`m talking here about influencers that promote unhealthy products and then complain about others bullying them. In that case, I don`t think calling them out means bullying.
There are always negative people out their spreading their negativity for no reason, just to please themselves! This is a beautifully written blog post!
Ayse Merve x
Some people are so rude and just plain nasty, I would have been so tempted to go up to their table and say something! Some people just don’t realise that comments can be hurtful and mortifying! I’m glad you never let them get you down, I hope you had a fab time in Brighton! I went there a couple of weeks back and loved it! x
Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk
Aw Amie, I’m so sorry that this happened! People can be so awful. Sure, we all have thoughts and don’t view things the same way. But there’s no need to verbalise them if someone is minding their own business and not harming anyone. I’m really glad that it didn’t bother you, I know it would have an impact on a lot of people. As long as you’re happy and healthy, that’s all that matters x
Sophie
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This is such a relevant post, I’ve personally lost a lot of weight but even now I get comments about what I’m eating and why, even though now I physically struggle to gain weight haha. I hope you had the loveliest of weekends girl x
Kayleigh Zara 🌟 http://www.kayleighzaraa.com
Yes yes yes! Very well said. I agree 100%… it doesn’t take any effort to just be kind to others and not judge. Live and let live. We need more people in the world like you! ❤️
I don’t get why people do this. It’s completely unnecessary. Also, that ice cream looks wonderful! x
I think your attitude towards people perfoming like that is wonderful. Their behaviour says far more about them than you, you’re right, you do you and you look gorgeous! X
Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com
People can be so awful! I don’t understand why anyone would make awful comments about someone else x
So sorry you had to go through that, hun! People can be so awful – I don’t understand why they would spend their time judging others when they could just be enjoying their food and each other’s company instead
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Some people are so awful. Yes, we’re all allowed an opinion, but being nasty isn’t ok. You’re absolutely beautiful so don’t let anyone put you down!
I remember being in secondary school and so many people used to make comments about others and make fun of people. It used to annoy me so much because there’s literally no need for anyone to be nasty.
Thumper spoke some very wise words!
I don’t understand people who are bothered to say something mean to others, especially when the other person didn’t do anything to them. It is great that people have their opinions but the negative ones don’t need to be said… Then again, why does it matter to be thought of? I am with you on this.
Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me
omg hun I hope you’re okay. what horrible people. I really don’t see why they feel the need to do that! ignore them cause clearly they have a problem with themselves.
People are so judgemental sometimes and god knows what makes them think their opinions matter because they bloody don’t! I’m sorry that you had that done to you! x
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Thank you so much for being brave enough for speaking out about this darling. I personally think that some people are just like that because they know no better and that they don’t have matters because everything is about them – these people are vile. I’m sending you all of my love beautiful. 💜
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That is so unacceptable – people shouldn’t feel the need to say anything about you at all!!! x
This is so horrible to hear – I can’t believe how some people act! I’m glad you’re able to rise above it!
Sammy x
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When will people ever just stop!
All this world needs is a little more tolerance and a whole heap more kindness!
Some people have low self esteem and need to make other people less (in their mind) to feel good about themselves. Other people are just jerks. Often its a combination. And it sucks so much.
I’m sorry you’ve been through this and I don’t hope it ruined your lovely weekend away.
Enjoy your ice cream 🙂
People are vile and most of the time are just projecting their insecurities onto you.
You’re beautiful never forget that!
♥
Luke
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I don’t understand why people are so mean. What even motivates them? It says a lot mor about them than it does you.
How awful. I’m sorry you had to go through that. It sounds like a cliche but it says more about them than it does about you. People who are happy in themselves don’t feel the need to be mean in order to feel better about in themselves.
Yes! I am not a particularly kind or thoughtful person, but it never even occurs to me to just insult someone out of the blue – I just don’t care that much! How nosy and judgmental and overbearing do you have to be to be so worried about someone else’s appearance or life choices, much less to actually say it out loud!?