Self love, sounds like a really easy situation doesn’t it? Loving yourself, appreciating yourself and being kind to yourself. It’s literally getting to that time of year again, the time of year where all I see on TV is about diets, losing weight for Christmas and New year and I’m like I literally have 0 time for that. The thing that I can’t stand the most is the fact that there is a serious amount of pressure to lose weight and look a certain way for one day of the year, and do you know what? It’s unnecessary pressure.
So what is self love to me? It’s about being comfortable in your own skin, taking care of yourself and prioritising your own happiness – including making sure that you have a good self care routine.
I am probably my own toughest critic and not only that sometimes I feel like I sabotage my own relationship with myself. What I mean by that is you’re supposed to treat yourself like you would your best friend, and I’m definitely the kind of person that doesn’t, if I had an enemy I’m pretty sure that I would treat them better than I do myself.
Some days I feel like I’ve come such a long way with how I feel about myself and I’m a damn queen and seeing the adverts on the TV about diets that are supposed to make you lose 3 dress sizes in about 2 months which is ridiculously unhealthy. And then I go and have days where putting my hair in a messy bun and want to pretty much hide from the world.
I struggle with self love and self doubt in who I am as a person, am I good enough? Is my worth determined by the way I look? By my size? Whether I’m a size 8 or size 28, I am worthy and I am constantly wondering what others think of me.
So why have I had a massive rant?
Well there is a good reason.
It’s that time of year where people are basically shoving down your throat that you need to lose weight, you need to look a certain way, and guess what you don’t!
You’re absolutely amazing in every way, you’re beautiful inside and out. You don’t need to do any drastic diet to lose weight, you don’t need to do anything that you don’t want to. You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to.
Society shouldn’t decide what you should do and who you should be. When people are advertising how you should change it hurts, it’s rough and I literally feel like I’m dragging my messy bun through it all, all day, every damn day.
Don’t let the season get to you, enjoy your life, live your life, do what makes you happy.
You don’t always have to love yourself everyday, like I said some days I genuinely struggle, but the days when I do feel like a queen makes the struggle worth it, and I appreciate those days.
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This can be a really tough time of year because there tends to be all the messages about “indulging over Christmas” and losing the “Christmas weight” and it’s just unnecessary!
Exactly, I really struggle with this time of year for that reason! xxxx
It can be a tough time of year. I’m struggling a bit as having the flu really got me down xx
I hope you feel better soon! xx
I absolutely hate some of the adverts that we see at this time of year! I really don’t think adverts for dieting should be allowed, it’s so dangerous, especially for young girls. I love Christmas and I definitely indulge in good food and drink over the festive period, but I don’t want to be bombarded with all of these messages about losing weight afterwards! Just let us enjoy ourselves! It’s just not needed xx
Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk
There’s nothing wrong with indulging, I try to remind myself, everything in moderation, but the amount of diet ads and everything like that really gets to me! xxxx
I love this time of the year but I definitely do feel the need to watch what I eat more and I shouldn’t feel that way, but I do x
http://www.ofbeautyandnothingness.co.uk
Exactly, and no one should feel like they’re being pressured to watch what they do. Everything in moderation in life. It’s the festive season! xxxx
Love you and this post. I totally agree, this time of year can be really hard – I definitely love indulging over Christmas but the guilt I end up feeling afterwards can be really tough, constantly being bombarded with NY gym memberships and resolutions, and you’re absolutely right – every body is beautiful.
Hels 💚
http://www.thehelsproject.com
Exactly, it literally feels like you’re being judged all the time by every advert and it bothers me so much! xxxx
Such an uplifting post and so very true, I’m always promoting self love to my friends but find it so difficult when it comes to my own body and looks. There will always be ups and downs but I appreciate your message, love you Amie – you’re such a force for all things good xx
Life is always going to be up and down, but it’s all about learning from each point! Self love can be so hard! xxxx
you are beautiful, Amie! all year round even if you don’t feel it all the time 🙂 you are queen! 👑
xx Emma B
the25lifecrisis.com
Thank you so much Emma, that means the world to me! xxx
This is such an incredibly important lesson that so many people need to hear! Thank you for being so vulnerable, and for sharing this!
Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca
Thank you so much Britt, I think we all need to be reminded that you shouldn’t feel bombarded with diets and what you should be doing over the festive season! xxxx
I totally agree with you in this post, I get the whole pressure that this time of year can bring. All I do this time of year is enjoy myself and not let those nagging thoughts get to me! Great Post x
I try to enjoy myself and my family over the festive season, that is what is important! xxxx
You are gorgeous my love, don’t worry about a thing! I know it’s easier said than done though, this time of year can be really hard but we will stick it out together! xx
https://www.chloexlizabeth.com
Thank you so much my darling! It is such a hard time of year, but like you said we can get through this! xxx
Tis the season to be jolly – great uplifting post with a great spirit!
Thank you my lovely! xxx
Great positive message. I’m my own toughest critic and it’s really important to remember to give yourself a break sometimes x
Sophie
http://www.glowsteady.co.uk
Exactly, I think we can be our own worst enemy sometimes! xxxx
Totally agree Amie – you’ve got to put yourself first some times x
You’re what is important in life, your happiness is so important! xxxx
Love the message in this post. I’ve always struggled with guilty but I’m trying to let go of it and love myself no matter how I look or how I live my life. Thank you for writing this post ❤
http://www.asprinkleofscarlett.co.uk
Thank you so much my darling, it can be tough but you can do it my lovely! xxxx
I adore this blog post and everything about it. No one at all should make anyone feel bad about themselves or be made to feel like they need to lose weight. Christmas time is the time for eating, enjoying food and loving everything about you – including yourself. Great blog post babe! 💜✨
With love, Alisha Valerie x
Exactly, it’s the festive season, it’s about spending time with family and enjoying the people around you! xxxx
It’s a tough time of year for a lot of people. We can all stick it out together!
Exactly, we can do this my lovely! xxxx
I have been feeling the same recently, thank you for this post!
If there is anything I can do to support you my lovely, I’m a message away! xxx
Yeah I get that. I hate how a certain look is pushed onto us.
You’re gorgeous as you are my lovely.
http://littlemissmelanie.com
Thank you my angel, it’s just such a tough time of year! xxxx
i totally agree with the pressure – i am feeling it already!
Rosie
It’s so hard this time of year! xxxxx
This time of year is hard because you’re being told to have hot chocolate and there’s so many chocolate ads on the telly, yet people are also saying you need to get to the gym to fit into the Christmas fashion, no-one can win!
Amy | hookedonthemusic.com
I know what you mean my darling, it’s so hard! xxxx
I always feel terrible this time of year!
It’s such a struggle isn’t it? xxxx