Your Feelings Are Valid – It’s Okay

I’m currently writing this at about 5:30am, I’m on the second cup of coffee and to be quite honest over the last few weeks I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed, I’ve been going through so many changes in my life, so many things that I’ve been trying to do and to juggle, and I’ve had to admit I’m emotionally exhausted.

Everyday is not gonna be great, I know that, but when you get this constant feeling of being overwhelmed, it’s time to admit that, and it is okay.

I’ve always struggled with anxiety, lately however it’s got a lot worse, I had it under control but I guess there are lots of things that can trigger anxiety to get worse. I have felt so overwhelmed for so long, I mean to the point where everything is causing me so much anxiety that getting out of bed is such an issue. 

I’m always the kind of person that tends to put on a brave face, say oh everything is okay, nothing is wrong, I can conquer the world and no one has to know internally I’m fighting a battle, but I guess at some point the mask comes down and the internal battle shows it’s face – and it isn’t pretty.

I am also the kind of person that will pretty much invalidate the way I feel, tell myself that nothing is wrong, that I’m just being silly, having a bad day or I need a nap or a few more carbs, but you shouldn’t do that. I should know better – but in reality, I’m pretty sure I’d say anything to make myself feel better.

It’s okay to admit something is wrong, it’s okay to admit that you’re struggling, that you need a break and that you need help from the people around you.

I had a little bit of a breakdown on Sunday evening, I cried, had some uncontrollable & very ugly crying that left me feeling like a weight had been lifted of my shoulders. Not only that there was a massive sense of relief, it was like an aahhh moment.

After I had finished my full on ugly cry I sat there thinking why hadn’t I admitted this in the first place? Was I scared? Was I worried about being judged? And then I realised I’m just too damn proud to admit that something is wrong.

Have you felt like this lately? Am I alone in this? If you’re reading this and you’re feeling similar – then this last bit is for you.

Don’t dismiss the way that you’re feeling, don’t dismiss the way you’re feeling. Don’t just put it down to a bad day. Sometimes you need to give yourself a break, you need to be able to take a breath and to give yourself some time to just chill out.

The way you’re feeling, it’s okay, the feelings you’re having are valid and don’t let anyone, including yourself tell you that your feelings aren’t valid.

Everything will be okay.

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  • I really hope you’re feeling better Amie! You’re so right, our feelings are always valid and sometimes we need a good old cry!

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      I feel a massive sense of relief since posting this. A good cry makes a massive difference! Xxxx

  • marie aygat says:

    I suffer from anxiety too although its much better lately but I know it can come back in a matter of minutes. Anyway I hope you’ll feel better soon. I know easy said than done. xx

  • You are absolutely, definitely, valid.
    I think it can be so easy to get stuck putting on a brave face.
    Cora | http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk

  • Heather says:

    I’ve been feeling a little like this recently – sending hugs x

  • Lucy says:

    I’ve been having a terrible time with my anxiety recently, and I can totally relate to a lot of what you’ve said here! Most days are a real struggle to get out of bed because I’m THAT anxious and it just feels so overwhelming. I’ve tried resting for a bit and I think I still need to keep taking it slow and listen to my body more ya know?! Anyway, I hope you begin to feel better soon – we can do this!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      We can totally do this Lucy my lovely! I’m here if you need anything! xxxx

  • Amy Jones says:

    I’ve been feeling more anxious and lonely recently due to being unemployed, I told my parents how I feel and after a bit of a cry, I felt a lot better. Hope you’re OK ❤️

    Amy | hookedonthemusic.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Oh darling I’m so sorry, I’m here if you need anything my darling! XXXX

  • Aww first of all, thank you so much for sharing Amie – I can really relate as I’ve been feeling a bit down lately and quite lonely, a good cry is such a good release to be honest. I always find it helpful to take a moment and breathe, and do whatever I want for that day until the feelings subside a bit. I hope things look up soon and you feel better, sending love xx

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      A massive cry releases so much on the inside and it helps so much! Thank you so much my lovely! xxx

  • Gemma says:

    You’re soo correct! Our emotions are such an important thing, as well as our health. Sometimes it is good just to let it all out and speak to someone. It can be hard but very rewarding after, I have always felt soo much better after speaking to someone about my thoughts. There are always people around to help. Thank-you Amie for opening up with this post. I hope you feel better soon.

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you my darling, it’s amazing what talking can do for you sometimes! xxxx

  • Shannon says:

    This post hit me in so many places. I’ve been feeling the same way as you for a couple of months now, I’ve just got to try and get myself out of the rutt that I’ve gotten myself into!

  • Chloe Chats says:

    It’s so important to remember this. When I have days like this I often say to myself c’mon stop being so stupid – but it only makes me feel worse when I tell myself I’m just being stupid. Hope you’re feeling better!

    Chloe x
    http://www.chloechats.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you my darling! We all need to stop invalidating our feelings, we are all guilty of it sometimes! xxxx

  • Such an open and honest post. I hope you’re feeling a bit better, and I’m glad that you allowed yourself to feel!

    Jas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk

  • Boxnip says:

    I do this ALL the time. From the outside, no one would guess or know that I am struggling. I’ve recently been stressing a lot, which has made my anxiety a lot worse and I hadn’t admitted it to anyone else at all. I even noticed my hair was falling out more than usual from the stress. I think I can take it all on my shoulders and not bother anyone else with it and for exactly the same reason as yourself, pride. My mum always told me it was weak to cry, or need help – she is a very strong independent woman and she never showed emotion or affection to me. So, of course, I grew up thinking the same. I still don’t like to show emotion or weakness. I’m trying to change that though but it’s so ingrained in me that it is very hard. 🙂 x

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      There is nothing wrong with asking for help or support my lovely, you’re not alone and you can get through this! xxxxx

  • So sorry you’re not having the greatest time lately. I can totally relate to this, I’m definitely such an ‘I’m okay’ and bottle it up person and it can make you so drained. I’m glad you allowed yourself a release! That’s not something I’m good at either. I hope you’re feeling better soon x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      I am the queen of bottling things up, but it’s so important to express how we are feeling! xxxx

  • Sahara says:

    I hope you are feeling better Amie! I can definitely relate to sweeping what I’m feeling to the side saying oh it’s nothing and putting on a brave face. I’ve been stressed & feeling anxious recently and it really helps to talk to someone – your emotions are valid, don’t ever forget it!

    Sahara
    http://saharas-dreams.blogspot.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      I’m definitely getting there my lovely, and talking to someone is so important! Thank you my darling, it means the world! xxxx

  • Laura says:

    I’ve felt a bit like this too recently, mostly from being busy and a bit stressed with work and from barely having any time off. Definitely helps to accept how you’re feeling and have a good cry or talk to someone you trust, no matter if you think it’s a silly problem or not, all totally valid. Great post Amie I hope you feel better soon as well xx

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you so much my darling! It doesn’t matter how small the problem, you should always talk about it! xxx

  • Lady Writes says:

    I think that a person should never be made to feel like their feelings aren’t valid – it’s so unfair x

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      I know what you mean, I’m the kind of person that does that to myself unfortunately! xxxx

  • Bethany Jane says:

    This is such a lovely, important, comforting post. I’m really sorry that you’ve been feeling so overwhelmed, it’s not a nice feeling at all and I know how hard it can be when you have anxiety. But you’re so right – allowing yourself to feel how you feel is so important. No one will judge you for having a down day. I hope that brighter days are just around the corner for you.
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety

  • Hels says:

    Sending you so much love. I totally get this – I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed the last couple of weeks, which has seemed really intense as I’ve had my anxiety fairly well managed recently. You are totally right, all your feelings are valid and you should never be made to feel otherwise. You should be able to take time for yourself, to feel sad or however you need to feel to be able to work through it 💗
    Hels xxx

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you so much my darling, it’s so overwhelming and sometimes you need to just give yourself some time to breathe and to just cope with how you’re feeling! xxxx

  • Ah, Amy, I’m so sorry to read this in one way but in another way, it’s such a beautifully written post. You are right, sometimes we do need to take a break and be able to let things out. I hope you feel better soon xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      It helps to express how you’re feeling and to just get everything out in the open! It’s a massive sense of relief xxx

  • Bexa says:

    I can totally relate to this Amie. Sometimes life just gets too much and we need a good cry and admit that we are struggling. Thank you for being so open and honest and I hope you are feeling better now lovely <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      We all need a good cry sometimes, it releases something inside and feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders! x

  • Lindsey says:

    You are far from being alone in this – I can relate to so many of your points. I’m so glad you were able to have that cry – there’s only so much you can bottle up until your crack and it does help letting it all out. Sending lots of support and hope you feel much better soon.

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Exactly, it’s like you’re pushing stuff under the rug, and you push and push until there’s this giant mountain that you can’t ignore! xxxx

  • Sarah says:

    I feel like this too and it’s taken me a long time to accept it’s okay to feel this way, and not something I should be ashamed of. I used to literally hate myself for not being able to cope at times and my focus is definitely on changing my mindset. I hope you’re doing well and I’m always here if you need to talk.

    Sarah
    Things Sarah Loves

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you so much Sara that means a lot! I think we all need to find a way to express our feelings and get everything out in the open – it feels like a weight has been lifted after xxxxx

  • Shayla says:

    I really love this post. So honest and open and necessary it’s somethinf I needed to see. I’m love your blog it’s so uplifting and inspirational. You’re a gift! Light and love to you!

  • Michelle says:

    Thank you for this post. I’ve been feeling this way for a long time and have been feeling so alone. I know it may sound silly but this post brought me comfort at a very uncomfortable time in my life. ♥

    http://www.mooeyandfriends.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      If there is anything I can do to help you Michelle I’m always here no matter what xxxxx

  • Imogen says:

    I’ve felt like this a lot lately too, the changing of the seasons always gets to me! I’m due a big cry- they always make me feel better, although a bit dehydrated!
    I hope everything clears up for you Amie <3

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Expressing those feelings really helps, and if you ever need to talk I’m always here xxxx

  • Mel says:

    Aw Amie. I feel this way sometimes too, for no apparent reason too.
    I hope you feel better soon.

    http://littlemissmelanie.com

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you my darling, I’m here for you if you need anything my darling! xxxx

  • Tiffany says:

    I totally relate to this, I’ve been feeling like everything’s on top of me recently and it just gets too much sometimes! It’s perfectly okay to not be okay and sometimes a good cry can do the world of good. I hope you’re feeling a bit better now xxx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

  • Sarah says:

    Hope you are doing ok xx

  • Theresa says:

    Wow, I’ve been feeling the exact same way recently. Sometimes my anxiety just gets so out of control the only thing that can help is a good cry. I really hope you’re feeling better Amie, and thank you for such an honest post! It’s one that I really needed to read!

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you my lovely, I’m so glad you related to this and if there is anything I can do to support you, I’m here! xxxx

  • Rosie says:

    i dont know if i’m just feeling mega emotional but this post has seriously spoken to my soul! the way you have written this is so gentle and unjudgemental!
    Rosie

  • Soph says:

    I love how honest you are in this post and I’m so glad you’re realising that you need to take it easy and a little more support. I definitely relate to feeling like this and am also someone who always puts on a brave face. I hope you start to feel better soon.

    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

  • I hope you feel better soon! I have been struggling with the same sort of feelings recently, it all just feels too much. Thank you for sharing!

  • shelley says:

    I;ve been feeling the same recently & its so hard to let yourself just feel it

  • Chichi Ogwe says:

    You’re right – it’s okay to express your feelings.

    Chichi
    The Cosmetic Notebook
    http://thecosmeticnotebook.com

  • Hope you’re feeling better now – a good cry does often relieve tension.. All the best in mastering your anxiety. My husband’s had it for years and only in the last year has managed to get better with hypnotherapy. Personally I’ve benefitted loads from counselling.. but we’re all different and find our ways of coping/healing. All the best!

    • amiecadwallader@outlook.com says:

      Thank you my lovely! I’ve heard so many good things about hypnotherapy, it’s supposed to be brilliant! xxxx

  • It’s sounds like you really needed that cry, sometimes you just need to let your emotions take over. I hope you’re feeling better now x
    Cora | http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

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