This post has actually been inspired by a conversation I had overheard while shopping that broke my heart to be honest. We all know the immense pressure that are put under a lot of people both male and female to look a certain way, especially though print and social media, it can be incredibly difficult for people to feel like they’re represented. The magazines that can photoshop out a persons spots or cellulite with a click of a button, feeling represented is tough. While doing my food shop a young girl asked the person they were with while looking at a magazine, why don’t I look like that?
Honestly that broke my heart, she was a beautiful person, probably no older than my little cousin and it honestly got me thinking, was I like that back then? A teenager who thought that there was a right or wrong way to look, and I thought yes I did! Now when I was a teen at school we didn’t have Instagram, we had Facebook, Twitter sometimes and Bebo. so our pressures mainly came from magazines or movies.
Even as an adult though I feel like there is still an incredible amount of pressure on everyone to be skinny, have curves and have flawless skin. Even for guys there is a pressure to have the muscles and all that, it’s just exhausting!
The photos we see online or in magazines are literally just a snapshot in time, it isn’t always the reality. You see the photo I used today for my blog post, the reality isn’t always like that photo. For example I’m currently writing a blog post with a box of tissues, no make up, my glasses on, painkillers by my side and a Rudolph nose.
I’m always the kind of person that is very quick to compliment others on how amazing they look, how fabulous the photos of them are but when I look at photos of my self I am so quick to put myself down, I’m quick to comment and focus on the things that I don’t like about my body rather that anything positive.
Onto the point I am attempting to make, as long as you’re happy and healthy, you’re looking after your body, you have a good and beautiful body already.
Good bodies come in all shapes and sizes. The number on your clothes, whether you have curves, abs, lumps or bumps learning to love yourself and your body is incredibly important.
So what is the way forward for loving our bodies and being kinder to ourselves?
Treat your body like a friend, I am doing this more and noticing such a difference. The thing I always tell myself when I’m about to be negative is would you say that to a friend? To a loved one? Someone you cared about?
We only get one body, love your body, care for your body, treat your body like your best friend, when you see photos in a magazine, appreciate how gorgeous the photos are, but try to not let those photos influence the way you feel about your body or make you feel like you need to change the way you look. Your body is incredible. Your worth isn’t determined by a number on your clothes or on a scale.
We aren’t always going to feel 100% positive about ourselves everyday, but don’t put yourself down, you’re gorgeous.
There are so many incredible body positive people within the blogging community including Lottie L’amour and Megan Jayne Crabbe aka Body Posi Panda they’re literally such incredible queens of body positivity!
What are your favourite body positive influences? Let me know in the comments!
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