Why I Will Never Be A Girl Boss

This post has been in my drafts for about a year, and I haven’t bothered to publish it. I’m completely unsure why, but I feel like now it is February, the “Girl Boss” term seems to be going around more and more, so I thought post it now! Now the term #GirlBoss has been floating around for a few years, if you’ve done something amazing Girl Boss tends to be the phrase people will use like they’re winning at life. We all juggle quite a lot to be honest and this whole adulting stuff is difficult to be honest.

To be honest the whole #GirlBoss thing can really get me down in all honesty, for various reasons which I will go into. I wrote a post not so long ago about the fact that achieving everyday is practically unachievable (you can read that here) and I feel like to be a #GirlBoss you literally have to be killing it everyday. I mean sometimes my biggest achievement is getting out of bed and actually deciding what to have for dinner.

I am 100% not #GirlBossing my life. But do you know what, I am 100% okay with that.

When it comes to social media, we are all very quick to compare ourselves, I mean especially with Instagram, you end up seeing one snippet of someone’s life, you know the perfect lighting or the perfect shadows, the perfect caption to go with a photo, it’s like damn what am I doing wrong?

But it’s important to remember that social media only shows one part of the story. I don’t have the perfect house made for Instagram, I kind of post whatever I want sporadically on Instagram and I’m just casually doing my own thing on Instagram.

I’ve tried to be the whole #GirlBoss kinda thing and I feel like I have managed to burn myself out. I cannot physically be everything to everyone. I can’t manage to balance everything and have everything. It is okay to want to strive for your goals, it is okay to dreams and the determination to get to where you want to be, but can you remember one thing? Have balance in your life.

Life is made for living, it is to be enjoyed, small steps in the right direction are the best. You don’t need to achieve everything by a certain age, it is okay to have days where you need down time, you need space, you need to blow off steam.

Don’t feel pressure to do something or be something. If you are a Girl Boss, I’m proud of you, you’re doing an amazing job, if you’re not a Girl Boss like me, then I’m proud of you too, you’re doing an amazing job.

Not everyone’s life is the same, we are all just plodding along at our own pace and doing our own thing. Always do what you want with your life.

Never be anything less than yourself, always do what you want.

Do you class yourself as a #GirlBoss? I’d love to know!

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22 Comments

  1. Megan mccoig
    02/02/2018 / 9:42 am

    Girl I actually think you are a Girl Boss. Your social media’s and blog are always on point and you’re the kindest soul ever! That’s what counts xxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      02/02/2018 / 3:25 pm

      Awh thank you so much angel! You’re honestly way too kind! xxxx

  2. 02/02/2018 / 11:17 am

    This is a fab post Amie, one I think a lot of people will resonate with. In the literal sense of the word, I am a girl boss because I am my own boss and I work for myself. But I’m SUCH an over-achiever that I often burn myself out. I need to be achieving, achieving, achieving all the time and it’s so draining but I’m also aware that my attitude towards it isn’t strictly healthy. And that’s a good thing too xxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      02/02/2018 / 3:26 pm

      Thank you so much my darling! I definitely have to be achieving all the time, but I think it is really important to make sure that I remember all about self care because I can’t do anything if I don’t look after myself! xxx

  3. 02/02/2018 / 11:37 am

    Love this blog post babe. I don’t think I personally am a girl boss either, however, I suppose I am in some ways since I am a blogger and that’s what brings me my money in so I work my arse off on my blog with only my help. I love that you’ve done a blog post about this babe! Thank you for sharing 🌸💜✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie. x
    http://www.alishavalerie.com | http://www.twitter.com/alishavalerie

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      02/02/2018 / 3:27 pm

      I know what you mean angel, I think it is just because I personally don’t see it in myself, that is why I don’t relate to being a Girl Boss! xxxxx

  4. 02/02/2018 / 1:04 pm

    Such an amazing post. I’m not hooked on the idea either (although, I like the little motivational quotes and pictures, they can be very empowering). Even thought I run a few online businesses, I’m don’t see myself as a girl boss – I’m just a person with the control over my life and my money.

    Thank you for sharing ❤

    Ania x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      02/02/2018 / 3:28 pm

      Oh I’m all for the quotes, I think if it motivates you and all that then put them everywhere, but I don’t see myself as a girl boss at all! xxxx

  5. 03/02/2018 / 8:53 am

    I love how honest this post is. But you’re definitely a Girl Boss in my eyes, I think you’re killing it in so many ways and it’s just funny how we see ourselves so differently to how others see us!
    I completely see what you mean though, I’m currently trying to be perfect at everything, my blog, holding down two jobs, being a partner, being a good Aunty, a good daughter etc and I’m beating myself up when I fail. I really need to learn not to and that it’s okay to be imperfect! xo
    Sian | sian-kathrine.blogspot.co.uk

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/02/2018 / 12:13 pm

      Awh thank you so much angel! I totally feel the way you feel, it seems like we all set ourselves up to try and do everything for everyone and it just isn’t physically possible! xxxx

  6. 03/02/2018 / 6:01 pm

    I think considering yourself a Girl Boss is important! Some days I complete my entire to-do list, plus more and I’m definitely feeling like a Girl Boss! Then there are other days where I consider just getting out of bed a Girl Boss move. I do what I can and stay as strong as possible. We all have different levels of Girl Boss. Just keep working it!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/02/2018 / 12:15 pm

      That is such a different way of looking at it! Thank you so much angel1 xxxx

  7. Amy
    04/02/2018 / 12:30 am

    I don’t think I’m a girl boss at all, and I’m OK with that too. I don’t care much for Instagram tbh, it’s a great way to get your blog out there, but not much more. It’s where everyone goes to get envious as people post ‘perfect’ pictures, where there’s no such thing. Maybe I’m being a bit harsh, but Instagram really gets me riled up.

    Amy | hookedonthemusic.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/02/2018 / 12:16 pm

      I think we can all be a bit tough on ourselves, it’s natural. Instagram is currently the bane of my life to be honest! xxxx

  8. Kirsty
    04/02/2018 / 12:25 pm

    I DOn’t class myself as a girl boss and quite frankly, the term makes me cringe a little!!!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/02/2018 / 2:08 pm

      I’m the same to be honest angel! I am not 100% confident with the phrase! xxxx

  9. becca
    04/02/2018 / 8:43 pm

    I don’t reallyfeel like i’m girlbossing but hey! other people can see it differently x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/02/2018 / 10:32 am

      I think everyone seems the whole Girl Boss thing differently, but I love seeing people’s opinions! xxxx

  10. 05/02/2018 / 11:41 am

    I really dislike the phrase girl boss! I think it’s sad and unfair and it gives off the wrong impressions! Nobody can smash life everyday, everyone gets bad days or days when life is difficult! Fully support this post!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      07/02/2018 / 1:55 pm

      I feel so uncomfortable with the phrase sometimes! I’m just trying to do my own thing! xxxx

  11. 06/02/2018 / 9:54 pm

    I am so with you on this. There’s a girl on my Facebook who puts #girlboss at the end of every status. She’s a beaut and I love her BUT it makes me feel bit crap that I’m winging it and she appears to be smashing it. Popping out babies, running her “business” all the while with a full face of make up and unchipped nail polish. Where as I’m lucky if I can be bothered to put mascara on… I don’t want anymore children (gasp I know) and as I do nails for a living mine tend to be a mess. I really should stop comparing myself though and this post is a reminder of that. Xxxxxxxxx

    https://lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      07/02/2018 / 2:00 pm

      Comparing yourself can be so difficult when people seem to be nailing it everywhere, but just because they’re doing their own thing, doesn’t mean you’re not doing amazing in your own life! xxxx

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