5 Things I’ve Learned From 5 Years Of Marriage

On 14th December, Paul and I will have been married 5 years. I’m genuinely not sure where the time has gone to be quite honest, it literally feels like yesterday we were planning our day, checking out to our venue and finishing off the final touches for our day.

Marriage has been such a whirlwind and it is definitely not easy, but having a partner that understands you and vice versa makes marriage much more fun. Not only that it has taught me so much about myself and been such a earning curve. Here are a few things I’ve learned in the last 5 years.

1. Going To Bed Angry Is Actually Okay

There are going to be so many times when your partner annoys you, you fall out, have an argument, and actually going to bed angry is okay. Sometimes a good nights sleep, some quiet and waking up with a fresh perspective can help. Any extra time you have to calm down can really help, I know it really helps me!

Just make sure that when you wake up, you have calmed down and you are prepared to talk through everything.

2. You Will Change, But That Is Okay

I’ve changed so much over the last 5 years, I’ve gone down so many different roads, and so has Paul, but we have changed together, we have grown as a couple and we are in a great place. We have the opportunity to grow in our careers, in our passions and share those amazing moments together.

The beauty about you changing and growing together is you get to see this incredible person achieving everything they have wanted. I have been with Paul since I was 17, and I’m definitely not the same person I was when I was 17 and neither is Paul, so seeing these changes, just makes me love him more because I know how hard he has worked to get to where he is.

3. Communication Is Always Important

Sometimes I’m not the best communicator, because I do get incredibly anxious, I tend to trip over my words and not get out the way that I would like to. Bottling everything up inside isn’t healthy, it doesn’t work. It makes life difficult, the thing is with partners, they are there through everything, through the good, the bad and the ugly. They are the ones that will support us, make us smile and give all the hugs and advice possible.

It is okay to be vulnerable, which is something I’m trying to learn.

4. Appreciate Everything

I am beyond grateful for everything that Paul has done for me, he has been there through my most difficult patches, and vice versa, but one thing I really do appreciate is the small things he does for me everyday. For example making sure that I have lunch for work, making me smile when I’ve had a long day at work and giving me lots of cuddles everyday.

Always appreciate the small things your partner does everyday, even if it seems small, they make your life much easier.

5. Laugh Often & Try Not To Be So Serious

I’m my own worst enemy when it comes to this because I tend to take life way too seriously, but having a husband that is genuinely so carefree and has the worst jokes makes life easier. Never forget the importance of laughing together, Paul tends to call me half pint because I’m particularly short and I go with it now, and I have lots of nicknames for him, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Being married to someone who is not only your husband but your best friend is literally so much fun, because you get the chance to share every struggle, every smile, every special moment with them, and I am beyond grateful for that.

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