To The People Who Bullied Me As A Child

Now we all know that people can be cruel, especially if you’re different. It can be in any kind of way, but people can be cruel, you can end up feeling alienated, hurt, belittled and anxious. Bullying is not just something that happens as a child, it can also happen as an adult. No one deserves to be bullied, it should never happen in the first place, it is a cruel and awful thing that can have serious consequences for the person who is being bullied. I decided to write a letter to my bullies.

To The People Who Bullied Me,

In the last 10 years, I’ve walked past you a handful of times, the last time was just last week. You don’t remember me, you clearly didn’t recognise me when you walked past me in the supermarket, and you probably don’t remember what you said or did back then. The comments that you thought were so funny at the time, that you didn’t think would hurt. It’s not like you could see the emotional scars from when you told me I was too fat, or I was ugly, or stupid, or I would never amount to anything.

I was always so scared to walk into school, or I’d try to avoid going certain places, knowing that you would be there. Going through the corridors hoping that I wouldn’t bump into you, it would be utterly terrifying.

Being told those comments hurt, I mean they really hurt, and it was awful, it made me feel so low, so small and so insignificant that it felt like it I didn’t even matter.

I wonder how you would have felt if you had a chance to live in my shoes, if you had a chance to feel what I felt when you made those awful comments, would you have felt the same? Would you have reacted like I didn’t? I never reacted to you, I never made a comment, I tried to ignore you in the hopes that it would stop, nevertheless it didn’t. It continued, and it hurt like hell. I was so lucky to have some of the greatest friends though primary and secondary school, they built me up, put me back together and reminded me that I am worth so much more.

I have grown up I have learned to love my body more and more. The size of your body doesn’t define you, not only that regardless of the number on your jeans, you’re absolutely beautiful inside and out. You are a beautiful person and no words can change that, their words are poisonous and vile, you’re stronger than that. The people who belittle you, make you feel like rubbish, these are the people you don’t need in your life.

I am not that person I was when I was younger, the insecure and hurt person that I was. I’m stronger than ever.

I wish you nothing but the best in your life, your words hurt, think before you speak, and if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Words hurt. You won’t see the damage physically but it is there, I promise you.

I am incredible and I will never let anyone make me a victim of bullying again.

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28 Comments

  1. 22/01/2018 / 8:58 am

    Wow, such a powerful, well written and positive post Amie 💖. You are definitely a strong and beautiful person. Bullies are just weak people with insecurities who try to bring others down. It’s great you have changed a negativite experience in to a way to support others and become a stronger person yourself. Brilliant post, bullies never win 😘 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:21 pm

      Thank you so much angel, it means a lot! I know it is so hard for people, if I can share my story it will help! xxx

  2. Rebecca Greenway
    22/01/2018 / 9:45 am

    Such a wonderful post 😍 you are so strong!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:22 pm

      Thank you so much angel, it means a lot! xxxx

  3. 22/01/2018 / 11:03 am

    I really loved this post! Good on you for writing it!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:22 pm

      Thank you so much angel, it means a lot! xxxx

  4. 22/01/2018 / 11:53 am

    This post is so powerful! You are such a lovely person and I know this post will help SO many people who’ve had similar things happening to them or going through it now!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:26 pm

      Thank you so much Rosie, it really does mean a lot! I want others to remember they’re not alone! xxxx

  5. 22/01/2018 / 11:56 am

    This is really inspirational, Amie! It’s such a shame that people truly believe that bullying is acceptable. I’ve been dealing with bullying at my job. Even adults lower themselves to that level. I’m so happy you were able to rise above it and see your worth!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:28 pm

      That is awful, I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing bullying at work, that is the worst! I really hope that work sort it out soon! It is so wrong that you’re going through that. Always here if you need anything xxxx

  6. 22/01/2018 / 1:07 pm

    You’re such an inspiration. This must have been a really hard post to write but I’m so glad you did because you’re saying what everyone who has ever been bullied has felt ❤️

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/01/2018 / 2:28 pm

      It was so hard, but I really wanted to write it because I know so many people will relate to it! xxxx

  7. Erin
    22/01/2018 / 9:20 pm

    It truly shocks me how horrible people can be sometimes, and I can agree whole heartedly with everything you wrote. I had the same throughout high school too, They don’t know you as a person, and how lovely and kind you are <3

    Erin || MakeErinOver

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:43 am

      Thank you so much angel! It was heartbreaking but I wanted to share this letter as a weight was being lifted off my shoulders and to show people that they’re not alone! xxxxx

  8. 22/01/2018 / 9:50 pm

    lovely letter and you should be proud of it and sorry about what happened. I was bullied a lot too as a child until around 13 years old so I was bullied for many many years unfortunately.
    I was like you always try to ignore their awful comments because I though they’ll get bored and stop…well just like you it didn’t stop in fact it probably got worst. Have been told awful things , like I was a slu* , a hor* etc. a fat pig etc. (even so back then I never had a boyfriend or even ever kiss a boy. my 1st kiss I was 20 years old !!! ) but yet some how ?everybody though I was a slu* …and that was not the most awful thing I was told. The worst was people making up stories about me that was 100% false and they weren’t nice stories!! but yet everybody believe those awful stories. Worst its a boy once follow me after school to my home and he was insulting me all the way to my house. The worst its that I did not know that boy (but I knew he was from my school) , he used words that I would not even use here as they were pure evil, I came back home crying and in a shock state that my parents though I was having a mental breakdown or something although once they find out my parents did nothing to help( they never though it was serious enough …my parents are idiots really ) Anyway …it stopped when I was about 12/ 13 . Then it became more rare ! Thanks god. Anyway bullying is a serious thing and should be punish by law even as a kid !

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:45 am

      That is so awful, I am so sorry that you would have to deal with that! It should be punishable because honestly it can do so much damage to a child, and have such an impact upon the rest of their life, the words mean a lot. If you ever need anything please let me know angel! xxxx

  9. 23/01/2018 / 12:47 am

    This post resonates with me so well. Some children and teenagers don’t seem to understand or care to realise that words do hurt. It’s time to get rid of the saying that words will never hurt me, because they are the most powerful… Bullying leaves scars so deep. Hopefully one day humans can be nicer.

    Rebecca Elaine x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:47 am

      We can hope so cant we, I still have the emotional scars from years ago, but I’m learning to let that go now! I’m here if you need anything angel! xxxx

  10. Amy
    23/01/2018 / 9:25 am

    Wow, this is such a defiant post. You stick it to them! They shouldn’t be able to bring you down because you’re so lovely and they’re just jealous of you my love. I’ve been bullied too and I know how it can mess you up, so believe me when I say that you’re not alone!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:49 am

      Thank you so much angel, I am learning to let go of the words that they said years ago, those words don’t mean anything because they don’t mean anything to me xxxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:49 am

      Thank you so much angel, that really does mean a lot to me! xxxxx

  11. 23/01/2018 / 11:30 pm

    I had tears in my eyes reading this. People can be so cruel and I worry so much about my son being bullied! I really hope he isn’t as he’s so friendly.
    I am so glad you’re strong and I bet they were jealous. It’s alwahs jealousy that fuels these bullies. Xxxxxxx

    Lots of love xxxxxx

    Lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/01/2018 / 11:51 am

      I’m so sorry I made you tear up angel! The only thing I can say if you ever get an inkling about bullying is just watch for a change, with me I became very defensive, I wouldn’t open up, my mum noticed a massive change in my attitude. I’m sure your son will be okay, he has an amazing mum who adores him!

      Thank you so much angel!xxxxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      25/01/2018 / 3:13 pm

      Thank you so much angel, I definitely put my heart and soul into it! xxxx

  12. 30/01/2018 / 6:55 pm

    Well done for being strong!
    I was honestly so relieved when my parents moved away from my home town. I never go back there now – I hated having to keep my eyes open when walking around the centre, i did NOT want to bump into some of those people from school.
    I was not bullied, but I do not want to be reminded of a time in my life when I was so unhappy!
    Good on you,
    Ernie xoxo

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      31/01/2018 / 1:31 pm

      Thank you so much angel! I’m glad you are in a better place now angel! xxxxx

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