How I’ve Learned To Choose My Friends Wisely

I’ve talked about friendships so much over the last few year, on how important they are, what genuinely how it is a 2-way street. When we are at school we always say on we are going to be friends forever but in reality, it never works like that with everyone, and only a handful actually go on to be your friends forever. My best friend when I was 13 is still my best friend to this day which is one of the greatest things in the world, but I’ve learned the important of being cautious with the friendships I choose.

I’m not gonna lie, friendships are bloody hard as you get older. You work all day, you come home and all you want to do is sleep. I don’t even want to talk to anyone after a long day at work (my poor husband) so finding time to drop someone a text can be tough. Mainly because I’m a hermit and when I get home I want to pass out and fall asleep – you know the drill.

I’ve had so many friends come and go since I left school, and that is okay. Some people who I thought were some of my closest friends in the world and even though we may not talk as much as we used to, no matter what I will always be there for them. Other friendships? Well some people show their true colours in the end and end up hurting you more than you could ever have imagined.

They can be people who know your deepest secrets, who have been there for you through the most difficult times and they just don’t want that friendship they used to have with you any more. We all grow apart, it is part of life. We all have different paths in our lives, different things we want to achieve and I guess losing these kinds of friendships will always be the most difficult.

Losing those friendships has made me learn so much about myself, because I know that I am a good friend. When I care about someone, no matter what I will always do what I can to help someone. It has made me realise that people come into our lives for various different reasons, even if the reason isn’t apparent until later.

So how have I learned to choose my friends wisely?

I’ve learned to be more aware of the people who make an effort with me on a regular basis and vice versa. The people who I can go to and know they are there for me, that I can talk to about basically anything and feel comfortable. Not only that they don’t bring me down, we can have a laugh and above all I feel more confident. These are the kinds of friendships that we need in our lives, the kind of friendships that keep us strong and above all happy.

The friends that bring you down, stop making the effort an cut you out of their life, they’re the kind of people you genuinely don’t need in your life. They drain the life out of you and at the end of the day, if Ive learned anything over the last few years, it’s that life is way too short to have people in your life that make you unhappy.

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