Be Selfish And Don’t Feel Guilty

It’s been a hectic few weeks as of late and with the festive season coming up I’m like oh my gosh jingle bells and all that jazz. To be honest though when it comes to prioritising I’m normally pretty good, however lately, I’ve been quite crap at it. I hadn’t spoken to some of my friends for weeks, I mean that is how bad I’ve been. Juggling everything can be pretty tough, but sometimes you literally just need to say no. No no no no no no no no no no no no no no.

I have a big family, so there is so much to juggle, but learning to say no to certain things can be tough.

Some days you have a list a mile long to do, errands to run and instead all we really want and need to do is grab a cup of tea, lay in bed and hide from the world.

I have previously spoken about being selfish on the blog, including a checklist, however there is a reason that I’m speaking about this again on the blog.

I was casually walking around doing my food shopping the other day and someone was saying how selfish it was of a friend for them to say no to going out when they had lots of stuff going on. I was horrified (I also don’t make a habit of eavesdropping- the entire store could hear them) because when you have a lot going on in your life sometimes life can get incredibly difficult and you need you time.

I’ve been in that situation lately, where life has been overwhelming so focusing on my family and my close loved ones has been much more important to me than going out.

When people say oh it’s a bad thing that you’re selfish, it isn’t. If people are really honest with themselves, everyone is selfish practically everyday. We all prioritise our lives to make sure that we are able to do the things we need, whether it is turning our phones off, cancel plans on people just because we can’t focus on certain things and need time away. We all feel completely overwhelmed by life sometimes but remembering to put yourself first is increasingly important.

Always do what is best for you, what makes you happy, but also be a bit selfish. Turn things down when you need time, put yourself first, say no when you know you need time off.

Being selfish is a good thing sometimes.

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  1. 17/12/2017 / 4:34 pm

    we all need to take time for self care and sometimes people see that as being selfish, we all need to focus on ourself as well as others, so never feel bad!

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      27/12/2017 / 11:38 am

      I’m awful at being selfish sometimes but we’ve all got to do it sometimes! xxxx

  2. 20/12/2017 / 3:05 pm

    Totally agree – we all need to be a little selfish sometimes. We’d burn out if we were selfless 24/7 – it just isn’t sustainable.

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      27/12/2017 / 11:42 am

      I’m awful at being selfish, I’m trying to do my thing though and try to selfish a bit more! xxxxx

  3. 15/01/2018 / 12:27 pm

    sometimes looking after number 1 means looking after number 2.

    We all need time to ourselves to rejuvenate and get back to ourselves. Once we’re back its a lot easier to care and be around others.

    Totally agree with this post

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      19/01/2018 / 12:55 pm

      We all need to take better care of ourselves and do what is best for us so we can support others xxxx

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