You’re Having A Bad Day, It’s Okay

It’s 6:30, it’s a Tuesday morning as I’m writing this, I have so much to do today, and already I have realised today is a complete write off. I had some plans for things to do today, I had blog posts to write, a recipe to perfect, a list of things a mile long to do, and honestly is there nothing that is going to make it all get done today.

I literally sat in bed, watched the ceiling, wondering if it was slowly going to fall in on me. It didn’t happen but you know, swings and roundabouts.

I didn’t get up and check my phone which is a regular occurrence in the morning. The ritual goes phone, tea, breakfast, phone and attempt to look like some semblance of a human being.

Instead this morning I just couldn’t, I didn’t want to get out of bed, I didn’t want to move, I didn’t want to do anything.

Now I know my mental health isn’t in the greatest place right now, but it’s a rollercoaster with mental health.

Sobbing on my bed first thing in the morning isn’t the best way to start my day, I’ve actually had better surprisingly enough. After I’ve had that crying session, getting it all out my system, I’ve decided that what might be a good option is to write a bit of a post about it.

It probably sounds weird to write a post, but if I can do something productive with my pain, get my emotions out and maybe help someone else, then it’s a good thing to be honest!

Some days are going to be write off, there are going to be days when your emotions are so overwhelming that even doing the basic tasks are a struggle.

As someone who might be reading this, you might have a full time job, it’s a week day and having a day where you just need to take time out and to just focus on  yourself is impossible. On those days though, when you’re struggling so much, you can’t take a day off, you need to earn the money to pay for your things here are some things you can do – it won’t solve all of your problems but they can make the day a little better.

Take a deep breath, in through the nose, make yourself a cuppa and write down all your feelings.

When I manage to write down my feelings it honestly makes everything so much better. I feel like I am able to express how I feel and just put my heart and soul into something.

After that and you’ve had to go to work, or if you can take the day off, please do – once you’ve finished, go to the shop, buy snacks, run a lovely hot bath, put some music on, get a book or watch a movie. Have a total self care night, take time away from everything.

I’m the kind of person that is always on the go, always trying to do something, always on the go. Doesn’t matter if it is social media, blogging or just life in general I’m always trying to do something, and lately I’ve just completely forgotten how to chill out.

This post is a reminder that even when you’re struggling, you feel like the world is caving in on you and all you want to do is hide, it will be okay, it will get better.

Bad days happen, it’s actually very natural, but as long as you accept that you will have bad days and you take steps to make sure that you deal with it in the best way possible, it will make your days easier.

You will get through this, you’re strong as hell, and not only that I believe in you and your strength.

Stay strong. You’ve got this.

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8 Comments

  1. 22/11/2017 / 7:46 am

    Hi Amie,
    I hope you are feeling better today 💕. Your post was really thoughtful. I love your suggestions of “go to the shop, buy snacks, run a lovely hot bath, put some music on, get a book or watch a movie”. Sounds perfect 💜. It’s so important to take time away from everything. Thank you for sharing your ideas to make others feel better. Keep doing what you do 😘 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/11/2017 / 10:37 am

      Thank you sweetheart, I think there are just coping mechanisms, I’m definitely trying to get away from social media more and just focus on myself, it’s definitely important to do what is best for you on the bad days! xxxx

  2. 22/11/2017 / 11:55 am

    Thiis is so true and it’s where CBT and mindfulness have really helped me. It’s reminding yourself that nothing is set in stone and has to be bigger than the moment you’re in RIGHT NOW.

    These are often my favourite posts of yours, though it breaks my heart to know you are struggling. But it’s REAL and i can often relate. I wish there was a way to send hugs through a screen! I’m so glad for you that you have this mindset though.

    If your head is telling you not to be kind to yourself, here is permission for ME to practice self-care. Buy a nice coffee in a festive cup (pret soya cappuccinos are a must and their cups have an avocado reindeer!) buy a magazine like the simple things. Pick up a hobby like crafts. Make time for THE LITTLE THINGS that make you smile. You’re worth all the smiles in the world xxx

    Bumble & Be

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/11/2017 / 10:40 am

      I did CBT about 4 years ago, and on bad days it definitely reminds me of certain things that CBT taught me! Your comments honestly mean so much to me honestly, I don’t think I can physically put into words how much it means to me! Always here if you need anything my lovely! xxxxx

  3. 23/11/2017 / 9:48 am

    Oh aime, you are so brave and strong. Have you ever tried yoga? That can really help? Also don’t have coffee before 11am and writing down the things you are grateful for is really good too xxxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/11/2017 / 10:41 am

      Yeah I have just got back into doing yoga, but over the last few days I haven’t had a chance, I think with everything that has been going on I’ve just been so busy! Definitely going to write a gratitude list, been a while since I did one of them! xxxx

  4. Megan McCoig
    23/11/2017 / 8:52 pm

    Oh Amie I’m always here for you. I totally have had days like this and it’s really horrible. It’s so good to talk to people and get it all out xxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/11/2017 / 10:41 am

      Thank you so much my sweetheart, it really does mean the world to me! xxxx

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