Things You Shouldn’t Say To Someone With Depression

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I have talked very openly about my mental health and I’ve always tried my best to make sure I raise awareness for mental health, I think it is so important to get rid of the stigma that is out there because so many of us will go through something to do with mental health. So what are some of the things that you should never say to someone who is struggling with depression?

1. By you seem happy.

Are you trying to say that I don’t have depression, or that it isn’t okay for me to just put a mask on and try not to affect others, because that would be the last thing I would want to do.

2. Why are you being silly?

Sorry I’m but if you have struggled with mental health you will know that it isn’t something to joke about, it is serious. People have died from mental health related illnesses, why the hell would you joke about it?

3. You have an amazing life though.

Apparently you aren’t allowed to struggle with depression if you have an amazing life. I never knew it worked like that.

4. Go out for a walk it will help.

Apparently going for a walk will cure all my mental health problems. Who honestly thought that was a good idea? I’m literally flabbergasted.

5. Just try to be happy.

Because it is honestly that simple. When you have depression you can’t just choose to be happy, your mind goes into overdrive, you end up crying over the smallest things, you just can’t stop and it feels like you’ve got this massive rain cloud over your head. When things are at it’s worst for me, I honestly don’t want to get out of bed, I’d have no drive or determination to just get up and do the simple things people take for granted.

6. You don’t look depressed.

Oh yes because that is a thing, people must look a certain way to be depressed. Apparently the way that you look on the outside honestly determines what is going on with illnesses on the inside.

7. There are people worse off than you.

That might be true, but just because someone has other possibly even bigger problems doesn’t mean you should ever feel like your problems aren’t important. They are. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior about anything.

8. I get depressed sometimes.

Don’t you dare go and invalidate my feelings and what is going on with me. Unless you are talking about your journey with depression then this isn’t something that is going to help how I feel better about it.

9. Do things that make you happy.

See I try my best to do things that get me to feel good and happy when I have a bad day but the problem is, the things that I used to do that made me happy don’t really make me that happy anymore.

10. What do you have to be depressed about?

The things that people have to learn about depression is that it doesn’t discriminate! It doesn’t matter what size, shape, gender, ethnicity or background you come from you can still get depressed!

Have I missed one out or have you experienced something before when dealing with depression? Leave your response in the comments!

Love Amie 2016

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9 Comments

  1. 14/10/2016 / 10:19 am

    I so understand, that these phrases annoy you – but what WOULD actually be something, you’d like to hear or do?

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/10/2016 / 4:17 pm

      Just to be normal with me, I am not defined by my depression, there is more to me, I think just regular conversation would really help in all honesty. <3

  2. 14/10/2016 / 12:49 pm

    Yep, definitely heard all these before! I’ve also heard the “my friend had that and *insert product or thing here* helped them” … Sometimes I don’t want advice, sometimes I just want to be able to say I feel shit xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/10/2016 / 4:20 pm

      Exactly, and sometimes you just want a normal conversation that doesn’t revolve around my depression because we are not defined by my mental health <3

  3. 15/10/2016 / 11:56 am

    I’ve literally heard all of these, and you know what they really get to me, after a while I start believing some of them… when depression doesn’t magically disappear after I “walk it off” I start to feel that something is broken inside me, it is a horrible spiral of self doubt! Thanks for always being so open about mental illnesses, some people are so clueless!

    Kez | acaciasdreams.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/10/2016 / 4:24 pm

      I totally feel you, or I end up feeling like it is my fault, am I giving of that impression? But honestly we have done nothing wrong, we are fabulous just the way we are! <3

  4. 21/10/2016 / 3:13 am

    I agree with all of these except I think number 8 is a difficult one because as you said if someone is wanting to share their own experience with depression then I think sometimes that can help.

    http://www.thesundaymode.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/10/2016 / 6:10 pm

      I totally agree, however sometimes people who haven’t been through depression like to put say that they get depressed sometimes when it is just a down feeling. I’m not saying everyone, but sometimes people do do it! <3

  5. Veronica
    27/12/2016 / 9:50 pm

    Great list you’ve put together that I think everyone should read! I defo think the worst one is when people say everyone feels like that sometimes

    Ronnie
    http://www.veronicabizzarri.blogspot.co.uk
    xx

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