Stop Judging Me

Stop Judging Me

So while I was shopping on Thursday I had a big on an experience with someone, now normally I am the type of person who does take things to heart, that is one of my biggest downfalls, and someone mentioned something under their breath. Now I totally accept that people are allowed to have their own opinions of people and situations, I am not saying people can’t have an opinion, however, there is a difference between that and judging someone the way that I was judged.

Now I know that I am not the smallest person in the world, I have lumps and bumps and I have a rather large bum, however I am working on becoming a healthier person, and I guess by the way I look you probably can’t see that. However someone decided that they would turn around and say “be careful she might eat the whole shop.” Now honestly was there any need for that? Was there any need for someone to say that?

I have to admit I was incredibly bloated, I mean it was shark week, I was in pain which usually leaves me stuck in bed the pain gets that bad, but I went out to see if it would help, and I definitely realised that it didn’t help, not even a little bit.

During that moment I was trying my best to hold back the tears, I literally felt like the world could swallow me up whole. I kept pulling on my top and to try and hide myself, and nothing was working, the feeling I hate the most is being self conscious about myself, especially when I try my best to build my self confidence on a regular basis and to learn to love my ever changing body.

So why should you stop judging others? Well there are a lot of reasons to be honest, and I am going to talk about this a lot because I think it is something that we can all learn from and move forward with!

You don’t know what journey a person has been on and until you walk in their shoes you have no idea! I am on a journey with my mental health and my fitness journey, and you have no idea what struggles they are going through at home, in their life in general. Don’t judge what you don’t know about.

People should understand that you should treat people the way you would want to be treated. Would you want people to judge you just from the way you look, the way you act or your background? I mean seriously, is this something you want in your life? I know it is something that I would never even want in my life, nor would I even entertain it.

Learn to appreciate what you have because when you do, you know that the negativity that people try to spread, then you realise that their words can’t hurt you, they are the people that you don’t need in your life.

When it comes to people judging you, you honestly should focus on what the people who do know you say, because people can say mean things when they don’t know you because they are horrendous people, and you don’t need their negativity in your life, you’re too fabulous and amazing for that!

You’re beautiful, fabulous, amazing and wonderful in every way possible, don’t ever let anyone tell you that you’re not!

Have you ever had a similar situation? Leave your response in the comments!

Love Amie 2016

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33 Comments

  1. 22/05/2016 / 7:45 am

    Basically sod them. Your amazing, you’ve done incredible with your weightloss and let them judge! They don’t know you or your story and it’s people who make rude comments who will end up alone in the end!

    Becca xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/05/2016 / 9:42 am

      You’re way too kind thank you so much Becca, it honestly means the world. I just want people to be able to learn, but I doubt they ever will. I guess if the boot was on the other foot they definitely wouldn’t like it!?

  2. 22/05/2016 / 2:28 pm

    I really really hate people making comments like that. I went out for a run, which isn’t the easiest thing at my size. Someone drove past and shouted run fatty run. I haven’t been out for a run since …

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/05/2016 / 9:44 am

      Oh my gosh darling that is horrendous! I am so sorry that someone would actually say that. Don’t let them get to you, maybe go out in the evening or in the morning and just put your headphones in and just run, you’re beautiful my lovely!?

  3. 23/05/2016 / 1:17 am

    That’s such a horrible thing to say. It upsets me that people think they have the right to say things like that. You are a beautiful human being inside and out. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!! I think this is a great topic and should be more widely adressed, people are too quick to judge.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      23/05/2016 / 9:48 am

      It’s horrendous right? I honestly have no idea why people would feel the need to say things like that? Awh you’re so kind than you so much darling it means a lot. I think it is so important to speak more about this, and change the opinions of what people think. ?

  4. 23/05/2016 / 7:51 pm

    Hey!
    Let me tell you first that you my dear are FABULOUS in your own special way. This blog and this blogpost is fabulous and anyone who feels otherwise can just … Umm … Well … Flush themselves down a toilet -_-
    I’ve been bullied and commented negatively on a LOT all my lofe and still get that a lot. It’s bad enough that I’ve lost a lot of self confidence and self esteem! Bad enough that I feel anxious when I have to go and meet new people, scared of what I may get next. The good part though is that I’m actively working on fixing myself and my attitude. It’s a terribly difficult process that consumes me but I’m working on it!
    I wish you best of luck in doing the same!
    I’m writing about my struggle on my blog too, it’s a new series I’ve started which you can find on my blog, it’s called The I Love Myself Series! <3
    Find my awesomeness at saraallie.blogspot.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      26/05/2016 / 3:05 pm

      Thank you so much my darling, it means a lot. It really does hurt a lot because it’s like why would people actually say that to me, or about someone in general. Oh darling I totally know what you mean, I was bullied a lot at school, it was so tough and people say it makes you stronger but it hurts so badly! I’m here for you so much my lovely!?

  5. Jen Edwards
    25/05/2016 / 12:31 pm

    Oh hun. I’ve been a little stalky in the last few months because I wanted to get to know your blog, and I’ve SEEN the hard work you have put in so I can see why this is an absolute bummer…but…dude, you’re lifestyle changes are really paying off, you positively glow with positivity, hope, empathy and kindness, and you may still be a little bit rounder than you want to be buy you KNOW how bladdy fit you are, how much healthier you feel and you’re HALF THE BLADDY SIZE YOU USED TO BE AND THEN SOME!

    That walking talking resting b***face wants to meet me…because I’ll happily eat a whole shop, burp and then move onto the next one just to make him/her feel sick to watch it.
    All in the name of girlfroend solidarity – nothing to do with the fact I love putting all the food in my face (of course not…yep…nah…well, maybe).

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      26/05/2016 / 3:11 pm

      Oh my gosh thank you so much my lovely it honestly means the world to me! I’m definitely getting there and I’m not going to let anyone get to me anymore, I know I am fabulous an that is the important thing. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog and commenting, I absolutely adore you!?

  6. 27/05/2016 / 12:13 am

    Woah! WTAF!?! Who seriously thinks this type of behaviour is ok!?! I know people judge each other. We’re programmed to see something/someone & make a judgment. We can’t see the whole picture, so we make assumptions. But to make such a nasty judgment & then to verbalise is plain nasty. You’re doing fantastically on your journey & the fact that they have judged you without considering what your story might be says a lot about them as a person. You are beautiful, kind, caring & crushing your healthy living journey. They are lucky I wasn’t there with you, they’d have gotten an earful! Xx

    Tania | When Tania Talks

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      31/05/2016 / 9:33 am

      I know what you mean darling, it’s ridiculous that people think it is okay to say these comments, it just makes me feel horrendous. Thank you so much sweetheart, it honestly means the world to have your support darling. Sending you all my love?

  7. 30/05/2016 / 7:20 pm

    I can’t believe someone said something like that. That is just. Horrendous! People really need to think before they open their mouths. I know sometimes I’ve been guilty of judging someone from their looks, or what little I know of them, but I don’t ever open my mouth and say it. And I’m going to make even more of a concerted effort not to judge after reading this post. I know how awful I would feel if someone said that around me. I’m sorry that it happened to you. xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      31/05/2016 / 9:55 am

      I totally agree, I think sometimes people just don’t understand what they’re saying or what they’re doing or how their words can make a massive impact on someone, it can be incredibly difficult. Thank you so much for your support my darling, it means the world?

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      02/06/2016 / 6:38 pm

      I know darling it’s ridiculous, but I’m honestly trying to take it one day at a time, trying to make sure that I don’t let those feelings get to me because it’s not worth it!?

  8. 05/06/2016 / 4:43 pm

    Some people will never fail to shock me. I don’t understand why anyone would say things like that. We’re supposed to support each other and i hate people who judge others!
    You are right though, you don’t need those negative people in your life and we should all focus on those that matter and you are fabulous!

    xx
    http://www.beverbeeee.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/06/2016 / 9:00 am

      It is horrendous that people would think that it would actually be like that with us. I am trying to move forward and make sure that I am staying positive. Thank you so much for your comment and taking the time to read my post!?

  9. 09/06/2016 / 1:13 pm

    I did a similar post on my blog! “How to deal with haters” tackles this problem as well. Don’t let people get to you…EVER! Some judge because they’re haters.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      09/06/2016 / 5:12 pm

      Thank you so much darling, it is honestly so difficult but I feel like I am definitely getting there because I deserve to be so happy!?

  10. Tiffeny Brown
    13/06/2016 / 4:49 am

    That is absolutely disgusting, some people are so rude! When I was bigger (I recently lost 6 stone) I used to get a lot of nasty comments made by strangers and I have noticed how differently I get treated now I’m a more ‘normal’ size. It sickens me, even if you were ‘huge’ what right does anyone have to comment on your weight?! You’re beautiful my lovely, keep doing you 🙂 xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      14/06/2016 / 11:06 am

      Congratulations on losing 6 stone! It’s an amazing feeling right? I’ve lost 10 dress sizes and it is a wonderful feeling! I know what you mean darling, it is horrendous that people feel like you need to conform to a certain size, which is totally wrong. Thank you so much my darling it means the world?

  11. 17/06/2016 / 8:42 pm

    Wow, definitely uncalled for! Not to mention rude and disrespectful! Why would anyone say that?! As long as you are healthy and taking care of your body, then no one should have any comment, especially one such as that. You’re beautiful! You should have thrown an apple at that person and said, “No, I’ll leave this for you.”

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      20/06/2016 / 1:40 pm

      I know darling, it’s horrendous but do you know what, I’m stronger and better than that, I’m a fabulous person and someone who has never met me shouldn’t have such an impact upon my life. Thank you so much my darling it means the world?

  12. 09/07/2016 / 1:38 pm

    I will never understand why some people are so hateful. Especially the hate that is completely out of nowhere/directed at strangers. You’re totally right about people needing to not judge other. Maybe if they focused more on themselves than others they’d be in a better mood/wouldn’t feel the need to lash out at others.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      11/07/2016 / 2:24 pm

      I’m the same my lovely, but honestly there are just some horrid people in this world! It is important to focus on the people that bring positivity than negativity. I think sometimes people are just like that because they want to bring others down because they’re in such a good place!?

  13. 22/07/2016 / 9:06 pm

    I am so furious that someone would do such a thing!
    I have a post coming in the next days about judging and prejudice soon, I think it’s one of the main evils in this world!

    Don’t let them get you down (although I know how hard that is)
    Xxxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      25/07/2016 / 10:00 am

      I’m not going to let them get to me because honestly they’re not worth the time of day, it’s all about positivity from here, I don’t need their negativity in my life! Thank you so much my angel?

  14. 26/07/2016 / 12:16 am

    I cannot believe how evil and cruel a lot of people can be, I’m so sorry you had to hear this darling and these people who said this will eventually get the karma they deserve! I’m a massive believer in Karma and I know 1 day it will bite them in the arse.
    You are beautiful and don’t let any idiot, judgemental inhumane person tell you any different. People like those who said this are rude & disgusting and should be ashamed of themselves for saying such a horrific thing.
    I get so confused with a lot of things in the world, 1 of them being these vile people that like nothing better than to tear someone else down…to make themselves feel better, it’s disgusting.
    Don’t let people like this get to you honey, I know it is hard…but remember they are evil and you are so much better than them.
    I can’t stand hateful people, it’s 1 of my biggest pet hates and it makes me so angry.
    Always remember you are beautiful and tell any haters to bloody do 1!
    Luv n Hugs ?
    LisaXoX

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      26/07/2016 / 3:03 pm

      It is totally okay my darling I honestly am thinking that I don’t need their negativity in my life and it is important to focus on the positives. I have so many positives in my life, the important thing is that I am happy and that is all that matters! Thank you my angel it honestly means the world?

  15. 07/09/2016 / 8:30 am

    People who don’t like themselves are bitter and cruel. People who love themselves are encouraging and kind. It’s the way of the world. After losing 75lbs over the last few years, the fat comments went to eating disorder and drug addiction comments. Unhappy people will always try to bring you down with them! We must be stronger than them! I hope that helps you remember how strong and happy you have worked to become and that no one can take your hard work away from you 🙂

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      10/09/2016 / 6:49 pm

      I totally get what you mean, it is so hard though when you have so many voices around you telling that you’re not the way society thinks you should be! We are fabulous <3

  16. 30/11/2016 / 5:57 am

    This was an amazing post. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that person’s ignorance.