Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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Everyone knows how difficult comparisons are, how much they can affect your life and the impact they can have on the relationship with yourself and do you know the worst thing is we sometimes we don’t even realise we’re doing it. Social networks can also inflame the comparisons, for example, you see someone on social networks like Instagram, you see a photo of someone else you might start thinking oh I wish I was that tall, or I wish my skin was like that, and comparing yourself to that other person.

Theodore Roosevelt said one of the most beautiful quotes which basically sums up comparisons perfectly “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I completely agree with this quote, while you’re comparing yourself to others you’re pulling yourself down, you’re not appreciating how incredibly beautiful you are inside and out, and appreciating that no one is perfect and everyone has flaws and imperfections but that’s okay.

From personal experience I struggle with this, I am constantly comparing myself to others, whether they’re skinnier, prettier, happier than I am anything that I believe I am struggling with in general it is something I am terrible with. What doesn’t make it better is the fact that I have OCD, and that doesn’t help, so when I see someone and I compare myself to them, I become obsessed with it, so sometimes I can get myself in a right state which I have done a lot recently. It literally feels like when I become obsessed it is like the weight of the world is on my shoulders it is something that I can’t stop doing, my head is just going round and round with words like I’m not good enough! If you missed it, it was about my weight and the way that I believed I hadn’t lost any weight, the way I thought I was still the same person I was before I got married, and no matter how many times people would tell me, you’ve lost so much weight but me, I just see the same person that I saw all those years ago.

  • When you compare yourself it is biased. When we are comparing ourselves to others we are already believing that someone with a specific feature, or a specific body type is better than ourselves, when in reality, you really are incredibly beautiful.
  • Appreciate everything you have – You’re so lucky, you’ve go lots of people who love and care about you around you. The thing is when you’re comparing yourself to others, your selling yourself short, you might not have everything in the world, you might not have everything in the world but the point is, the things you have mean the world to you.
  • Comparing yourself is a waste of time. Did you know that you get 31536000 minutes in a year, so can you imagine how much time would you end losing just by comparing yourself to others? It is so easy these days to sit there on social media, see celebrities just from an app on your phone which makes it even more important to make sure that we don’t waste our lives away.
  • Be proud of you – That is something you should be be proud of every day of the year, you’re fabulous, you’re strong, you’re kind, you’re caring, these are all things that you should be proud of.
  • What do you achieve by comparing yourself? In reality if you’re completely honest? Nothing. Zilch. All you will really get out of comparing yourself is low self esteem, losing your personal time and various other things.
  • Focus on your life. The only life you can control is your own, so instead of focus on other peoples’ lives, focus on your own, because that is the most important thing in the world.
  • Appreciate your imperfections – Everyone has one, an imperfection that they’re not comfortable with or something that they’re not completely comfortable with, but that doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful inside and out.
  • Compare yourself to yourself – I know that sounds strange but compare yourself to things like how far you’ve come, your goals, your achievements, appreciation can really help when it comes to comparisons.

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Never forget how beautiful and amazing you are, you don’t need to compare yourself because you’re perfect just the way you are!

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12 Comments

  1. 17/04/2016 / 9:06 am

    31536000 minutes in a year!
    Oh how I care less about it.

    Yes, I sometimes put myself down. By stop stalking on social media, it helps a lot. I kind of easily getting envy on somebody else’s ‘happiness’.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      17/04/2016 / 10:59 am

      I think that can sometimes be one of the negatives of social media where we tend to put ourselves down, but by trying to focus on my own happiness it really does help me to move forward with my life! ?

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      18/04/2016 / 11:24 am

      You’re so welcome sweetheart! I am always here if you need anything my darling!?

  2. 17/04/2016 / 9:46 pm

    This is exactly what I needed! Such a lovely post, written by a lovely woman! I’m currently going through a break up and all I felt in the relationship was that I wasn’t good enough… I was constantly comparing myself to models and musicians that I knew he liked, to the point I questioned ‘Was I good enough?” stupid I know… but even though he did break up with me, one thing he did say to me, which I will treasure forever – “Don’t ever change yourself for someone else, they should love you for YOU, not what you’re pretending to be! I think we all need reminding of that sometimes <3

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      18/04/2016 / 11:26 am

      Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for what you’re going through right now. I know it hurts and it probably feels like you’ve got the weight of the world on your heart but know you’re an incredible person inside and out, he obviously appreciates what a fabulous person you are even though he doesn’t want a relationship. Know that you can get through this you stunning human being and I’m always here for you no matter what happens. Love you loads ??

  3. 20/04/2016 / 9:56 pm

    This is so true. I always waste so much of my time comparing myself to others as I always strive to be the best, especially with measurable things on social media. I know I need to chill out a bit, but it can be so difficult. To be honest, I’m much happier in my own skin away from social media! Great post – it’s definitely got me thinking.

    Lisa | farawaylisamae.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/04/2016 / 9:26 am

      I’m the same darling, sometimes we just need to take a step back darling and appreciate what we have! I’m here if you need me darling?

  4. 21/04/2016 / 6:43 pm

    This is wonderful! I’ve become so much better at not comparing myself to others, but I still find myself doing it sometimes. This was such a good list of reminders! We’re all great in our own way, after all!

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      22/04/2016 / 9:32 am

      I think we are all guilty of doing it sometimes, but it is important to remember that you’re fabulous in every single way so I totally agree with you!?

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      24/04/2016 / 8:41 pm

      You’re way too kind thank you so much sweetheart. That is the point behind my blog, I want to help people and if I can do that, then I’m doing something right!?