22 And Married

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Before I got married to my wonderful husband Paul, I had a lot of backlash (online) of people asking me, why do you want to get married so young, don’t you want to go out, party, enjoy life & not be tied down? I was a little offended when I first got asked that, because honestly what decision is it of theirs? I am happy, in love, and at the time was engaged so someone I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I started to question, if I was say 25 instead of 21 (when I got married) would people be questioning if this was a good idea?

Just to give you a little bit of background, I met Paul when I was at school, we were just acquaintances at that point, nothing more, but we became friends. I went through a rough period in my life and he supported me through that, we got closer and closer, and eventually, I fell in love with him.

When he proposed, which I have to admit is still one of the most romantic things to ever happen, he did something really romantic, he put arrows down the stairs and out into the garden on New Years Eve, he played our song, he had got the telescope out so we could stargaze. I looked through because he said I could see Venus, he tipped it down and there was a ring and my future husband, on one knee saying he wanted to spend the rest of my life with me. I of course said yes, because he is my best friend, my favourite person and someone I know that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It didn’t even come into my mind that I was too young to get married or that people would be thinking I made a mistake.

I knew Paul was the one for me, he was the one that made me smile harder than anyone else, he winds me up a treat, but honestly he is one of the greatest people in the world. Words can’t describe the love I have for him, so why would it matter the age that I got married? I was and am going to spend the rest o my life with him, whether people believe that or not, I know that we are meant to be. 3 years 364 days after we got engaged, we walked down the aisle and said I do, it was one of the best days of my entire life.

Back to my question at the top, the thing that I found strange about people’s comments was, if you looked back a few generations, getting married at the age of 22 would practically happen everyday. My Nan and Grandad bless their hearts have been married 61 years this year (blimey) and when they got married my Grandad was 25 and my Nan was 23 which in the 50s according to them was quite old to get married!

Marriage was never a decision I entered into lightly, it is a very special bond between two people who have a lot of love for each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. When I said those vows, I promised Paul to love him, support him, be there for him, through good times and bad, no matter what happened, and I am sticking by my husband.

Marrying Paul has been and always will be the best decision of my life, whether I got married at 22 or 102 for the first time, I think there will always be some critics, I’m not saying marriage is a walk in the park, I mean let’s be honest, relationships are bloody difficult. You argue, you look after  each other when you’re ill, you support each other through the good and the bad, you make each other laugh, everything, but you do it together, as a couple.

I’m not saying that marriage is for everyone, honestly it isn’t, but this decision was the best one for me and my wonderful husband Paul. Whatever your age, do what makes you happy, your happiness is the most important thing in the world, do what is best for you.

A little message to the people who said what they said to me:

To the people who said I’m too young, age is nothing, it doesn’t matter if you’re 22 or 52, marriages can break down, it isn’t determined on age. Marriage is hard work, and I don’t intend on giving up on my husband. This marriage is for life, we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other.  

To the people who said that my 20s are the best years, yes they are, and I can enjoy them the most with my incredible husband too.

To the people who say I can’t party and do things a single person does, I can. I can party, I can drink, I can go out with friends, I can have a laugh, but at the end of the night I come home to my incredible husband who I am loyal and love more than anything in the world. 

To the people who ask why I got married, I love Paul, I’ve never loved someone more than I love him, it’s different, with him. He is the other piece of me, the one I wake up and  want to see, he is the first person I want to speak to, the one I can go to with anything and everything. As soppy as it sounds, he has my heart in every way possible, forever and a day, I’ll never give up on him and he won’t give up on me. 

This is our life, my husband and mine’s life, our lives our rules, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, and he knew too, we’ve known we were the one’s for each other since we started talking to each other romantically. We are happier than ever possible. 

What is your opinion on this? Leave your opinions in the comments.

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  1. 11/01/2016 / 6:36 am

    I don’t get some people. I know if parents might be divorced it can be hard to believe that marriage will be something that’s forever, but that’s not about age.
    If you stay with one person during your whole life, married or not, people will tell you: “it won’t last. You’ll be thinking: what did I miss out on?” but why would I miss out on something when I am in a great relationship with the best partner I could imagine?
    People will always have something to say and to judge even if it’s not up to them to do so. And you’re absolutely right: getting married at 30 is no guarantee as well for a marriage to last. Relationships can end, no matter if you’re married or not, no matter what age.
    In the end, getting married is a promise to take care of each other and to fight for the relationship even if it’s not easy sometimes – forever or as long as possible (yeah, sometimes it’s not possible to keep that promise forever, but everyone knows that). You two love each other and that’s what’s most important and what will give you strength to stay with each other, even if there are problems sometimes or not.

    Never got the “missing out on all the fun” thing anyway, by the way. What fun? The fun I didn’t enjoy when I was single, probably. (what? That’s a thing? Not enjoying partying and flirting with all the boys? Changing partners every two years? Sounds like university where you’re odd if you don’t like to get wasted…)

    It’s the best thing to wake up next to their loved ones – for some people, at least. You are far too amazing to judge the people who don’t think that’s the best thing, so why would they judge you in return?

    All the best to you and Paul 🙂
    Sassy xx

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      11/01/2016 / 4:46 pm

      Sassy have I told you lately how much I love you?
      I completely agree with everything that you’ve said, I know that the way I have lived my life might not necessarily be the way everyone else might want to, and that is okay because everyone in this world is different, and that is the beauty about it, however this is the way I have chosen to live my life, my husband is the greatest person in the entire world, he means the world to me and I’m so grateful I met him. I know I met him quite young, but I knew I wanted to spend my life with him and that is important.
      I think people are always looking for something to complain about, or to try and bring others down, and I’m more interested in positivity rather than negativity!

      Love you darling💜

      • 11/01/2016 / 6:00 pm

        Yes, you have, but it’s good to read it again. 😉 Love you too, sweetheart 🙂
        Seems like there are some people who have to put others down in order to feel good about themselves, that’s so sad.
        I’m glad that there are people like you who focus on the positive, because otherwise our world would be a terribly cold-hearted place without love.
        xx

  2. 11/01/2016 / 6:47 am

    I completely understand your pain here, by 22 I was about to have my second child and literally everyone tells me I’ve ruined my life, I can’t go out, can’t go on holiday, have no money!
    Well guess what! I do go out and I appreciate it more as I do it far less then those who want to damage their liver doing it all the time, I go on family holiday which by the way are great fun and I have an amazing career and probably earn more money then those that disapproved of my choices to begin with.
    At 27 I am now married to the father of my kids and we have been together for 10 years this year, but to be honest no matter what you do and what you succeed in, there will always be someone to stick their nose in.
    Best thing to do is stick to your guns and enjoy life the way you want!
    Xx

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      11/01/2016 / 4:54 pm

      I completely agree! I still go out with my friends and family, I still drink, but I come home to my husband all the time because he is the love of life! Thank you so much Emma honestly your comment means the world, you have literally put everything that I’ve been trying to get across into more of a perspective. I think sometimes people think having a family is a social death wish, and it isn’t, you can live your life to the max!💜

      • 11/01/2016 / 6:16 pm

        Im glad its helped! It can be really tough but I just tell people to sod off these days! 🙂 as long as you are happy, nothing else matters xx

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          12/01/2016 / 2:20 pm

          Thank you so so much Emma, it means a lot!💜

  3. 11/01/2016 / 6:59 am

    Love this post! I think if you both love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together then what does it matter how old you are? Do what’s right for you guys! X

    Everything But The Kitchen

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      11/01/2016 / 4:56 pm

      Exactly Rhiannon, I completely agree, it was right for us, it’s not right for everyone and I completely respect that, and I think it definitely has to go both ways in that respect because people need to respect it was right for us too, and I think the people that said that to me didn’t understand that which is a shame because Paul and I have a wonderful marriage!💜

  4. 11/01/2016 / 7:15 am

    Definitely has nothing to do with age! Unless you’re like sixteen maybe. But 22, you’re an adult. If you’re officially counted as an adult then you sure as heck should be allowed to get married.
    Tegan xx – Permanent Procrastination

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      11/01/2016 / 4:58 pm

      Thank you Tegan, I completely agree, if you’re an adult, you can do whatever you like! The most important thing is that you’re happy, and you understand what a huge commitment getting married is!💜

  5. 11/01/2016 / 10:37 am

    This is so beautiful. If you feel good about something then it’s probably the right thing. And even if at some point in your life it ends up working out differently it’s not because you married too young, I think that’s total crap. People get divorced because either they just grow apart or they don’t put in the work the relationship needs. Doesn’t matter if your 21, 35, or 80. So if you feel in your heart that marrying at that point was right, than others should accept that. You be happy just the way you want to be and don’t let anybody tell you differently. Thank you for the honesty in this post!

    love,
    Margot

    http://www.aheartyhome.com

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      11/01/2016 / 4:59 pm

      Thank you so much Margot, it means a lot! I totally agree with what you say, marriage is tough, it’s not a walk in the park, but you have to work at it everyday because they are the person you want nd they make you happier than anyone ever could. I’m so glad you like the post my love and thank you for taking the time to reply to the post!💜

  6. 11/01/2016 / 11:51 am

    I relate to this post SO much!!!! My fiance Dan and I got engaged last June and I was 22 (I’ve just turned 23), and we had so many people tell us I was too young and we should wait. It really has nothing to do with anyone else when you get married, as long as you feel ready and you don’t take the decision lightly, then there’s no problem for anyone else!

    I’m glad you’re happy and aren’t taking any notice of everyone else!

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      11/01/2016 / 5:04 pm

      Thank you so much Sian! I’m not the only one! I got engaged at 18, and even though it might sound a bit young we had a long engagement, we just said, look we’re not getting married tomorrow, we want this, we understand the commitment it’s not like we did it on a whim! Honestly when you get married it is the best day of your life, thank you so much for your wonderful comment, it honestly means the world!💜

  7. 11/01/2016 / 12:27 pm

    Love this. I think there is no “one size fits all” age or time to get married, it’s circumstantial. People get married at all ages for the wrong reasons, and age does not mean that you know what you’re doing. I love that from what you’ve said, your marriage is what marriage should be, based on the love two people have for each other. I’m 21 myself and in a long term relationship, we’ve spoke at length about getting married and all that may come afterwards, and the only thing stopping us is money! We know that in our hearts we’re married and when we have saved enough, we will get married officially!
    I can’t believe people gave you stick for it, people are so judgemental.
    I’ve only just found your blog but am literally loving it! really enjoying reading it.

    I wish you and Paul many more happy years 🙂

    Ellie xx

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      11/01/2016 / 5:13 pm

      I completely agree Eleanor, there is no one size fits all situation especially in life, but you know when it is right and you know what is right for you and I think that is much more important! I think sometimes people are always looking for something to complain about, and I think because it is so easy to jump on the you’re to young to get married bandwagon people stuck their noses in. I’m sure at some point you will get married officially when you have the funds together, it will be worth it darling I promise!💜

  8. 11/01/2016 / 1:16 pm

    BEST POST EVER! I couldn’t agree with you more, as I mentioned to you the other day on Twitter I was 19 when I got engaged and 22 when I got married so I totally relate to this. If you’re happy, it’s your life. Live it how you want to not how others think you should!

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      11/01/2016 / 5:17 pm

      Thank you so much Jen it means a lot! I’m so glad that people have had a similar experience, I think it is so important that people live their lives the way that they want to! I hope you have many happy years with your partner! 💜

  9. 11/01/2016 / 1:40 pm

    I´m so glad you are so happy. Personally, I never even had a real relationship but I wouldn´t unterstand waiting to get married to the one you love just because of a number. That´s what age is after all. I´ve seen this very lovely post on Tumblr a few months ago were someone was criticizing that getting married young is like leaving the party early. The other person answered with “yeah, but you get to leave the party with your favourite person, go home, get your make up off and cuddle on the sofa”. I think that´s such a lovely comparison!
    I don´t understand why people criticize others for their actions, either. I mean, you can do that to someone who is 13 and doesn´t really know what she wants to do or what consequences that action might have. But I think with 22 and your personality you were fully aware of it all and you made the decision that was right for you! Nobody should tell you otherwise!
    xx Lisa | Following Lisa

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      11/01/2016 / 5:26 pm

      Thank you so much darling! It means a lot, I completely agree about being 13 of course it would be terrible if you could get married at that age, however, I am a fully grown adult who is in love with someone who is absolutely incredible and I am so grateful to be married to someone who makes me happier than anything!
      You will find someone darling and if that is something you want to get married I mean, you will find someone, you’re an absolutely fabulous lady who deserves the world and more. Someone will be so lucky to have you in their life because you are a shining star!💜

  10. 11/01/2016 / 3:41 pm

    Who cares what other people think? You and your husband are the only ones who can make a decision like getting married, no one else so stuff them! You’re an adult and you can make your own decisions. Like you said, just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t go out and have fun, you can still do all that, it shouldn’t impact your social life, and you shouldn’t let other dictate your lives.

    As long as you and Paul are happy, then that’s all that should matter

    Katie from lifeof-a-daydreamer.blogspot.com/

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      11/01/2016 / 5:29 pm

      Thank you so much Katie darling, it means a lot. It’s all about balance, and I have the greatest balance in the world with my wonderful husband, we have our lives together, but we obviously do things separately too like going out with friends but we share that when we come home to each other and talk about it!

      Thank you my darling!💜

  11. 11/01/2016 / 4:51 pm

    I agree with you 100%. I have been married for one year. When my wife and I got married, she was 26 and I was 28. Now I guess you can say that we were in the “right age” to get married, but really what is the right age?

    My opinion on this is as long as you marry because you truly love them for all the right reasons, age shouldn’t be an issue. I know people who got married when they were young and are still married to this, just as happy as before. You love your husband, and he loves you. That’s all that matters. If anyone has a problem with you getting married at 21, then tell them to move to the side.

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      11/01/2016 / 5:33 pm

      Thank you so much Ralph! It means a lot! I think personally for Paul and I it was the right age for us, we were happy, in love, and it felt right for both of us. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my post, I’m not going to let them get to me, but I want to make sure that they’re not going through this alone and a lot of people can go through this. 💜

  12. 11/01/2016 / 5:15 pm

    I got married to my husband at 19 and my parents were that ones that experienced the weird backlash. No one ever approached me about it. But when people find out I’m married they’re like what? Why? Why not wait? And I always say why not then? Besides being married to my best friend I got to go to college for free and have more financial stability living in a two income household in my early twenties. I didn’t enter marriage lightly. My parents divorced when I was very young so marriage was a serious decision for me. We had talked about it basically since the fourth week of our relationship onward. And if it doesn’t work out then it just doesn’t work out and you look back on the good times and learn from the bad and move on. It’s all fine. I don’t understand why some people have an issue with it.

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      11/01/2016 / 5:38 pm

      I had the same thing! My parents divorced when I was very young too, but I was quite lucky when it came to my grandparents, they’ve been married for 61 years this year. Marriage is never an easy decision, but when you’re happy, what else matters right? I think sometimes people want something to complain about, but as long as we are happy, that is one of the most important things! I hope you have many more years of happiness with your husband!💜

  13. 11/01/2016 / 6:56 pm

    I love this! One of my closest friends had this exact issue and it was so hard to watch her having to bat away objections and defend her marriage. I look at it this way – you’re the lucky one who got a few extra years spent married to the love of your life. I loved the last bit, the letter to those who doubted you guys.

    Loving your blog so far Amie 🙂 x

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      12/01/2016 / 2:22 pm

      Thank you so much Nadine, it honestly means a lot! It is so horrible to have to sit there and defend a marriage that you know is right, it’s so hard. I think I’m at that point where I just let the happiness that Paul and I share do all the talking! I’m so glad that you liked that! I didn’t want it to come across in the wrong way!💜

  14. 11/01/2016 / 7:07 pm

    I totally agree with you! I got married when I was 20 (I turned 21 a month later) and it has been so much better getting to go through all my 20’s milestones with my husband by my side! We even got better grades in college once we were married, since we could focus on school instead of having a crazy social life. I wouldn’t change it!

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      12/01/2016 / 2:24 pm

      That is so amazing darling! Honestly that is such an incredible thing to hear! I think sometimes people focus on the negatives way too much which is why people don’t actually see the other side of things which is, you can have the best of both worlds, and achieve so much by being married if that is what you want to do! Thank you so much for your comment my darling!💜

  15. 11/01/2016 / 8:08 pm

    I have literally been waiting for this post to go up!! I cannot even begin to tell you how much I agree with everything you’re saying and that I feel exactly the same about my husband! We got together when I was 16 and he was 18 and I knew almost straight away he was the man I was going to spend my life with .. So many people said it wouldn’t last/we would want to go our seperately ways etc .. But we stuck through it all and got married 5 years after ! (And got officially registered a few days ago!) Fab post … I am just so glad you’re happy and have found your soul mate!
    Saira
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      12/01/2016 / 2:25 pm

      Thank you so much Saira! I am so glad that you stuck with it too, it is so important to keep going, you married this person for a reason, and the love you have is so much stronger than anything else in this world! Love is stronger than negativity!💜

  16. 11/01/2016 / 8:39 pm

    This is such a beautiful post. I think that if you love someone and become in a relationship with them it is hard work and even though you think you’ll last forever or whatever you may end up parting ways but sometimes you just have that special connection with them. If you love him then i don’t see why you shouldn’t get married! You two sound so lovely together and i’m glad you’ve found someone you want to spend your life with 🙂 xxxxx
    I hope you two will be very happy together x

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      12/01/2016 / 2:32 pm

      Thank you so much my darling it honestly means the absolute world! I am so grateful! Of course I know it isn’t for everyone, and someone might not want to get married and that is okay, I completely respect that! Thank you so much for your comments!💜

  17. 11/01/2016 / 9:34 pm

    Well said, Amie. I think people’s reactions are mostly a projection of how they feel themselves. I’m beginning to see people I went to school with have children and that thought scares me because I am in no way ready for that, but it’s not my life or my choice. My fiance and I got engaged when I was 20, so we’ve been engaged for 3 and a half years now, but I mostly get people asking us when we’re actually going to get married because we’ve been engaged for so long. I’ve not experienced anyone suggesting that we’re too young.

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      12/01/2016 / 2:36 pm

      Your choice your rules, and I think it all depends on at what point you are at in your life! I think it is so good that you haven’t experienced people saying you’re too young, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, especially you! I promise you that when you do get married it will be the best day of your life!💜

  18. 12/01/2016 / 9:32 am

    Very well written post! No matter if your 20 – 60, we all deserve to be happy! I married at 20 and it’s the best decision we made, it’s been nearly 6 years now :and we couldn’t be happier 🙂

    Hope you and your husband have a fantastic marriage

    Melissa | http://www.fruityflamingo.co.uk

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      12/01/2016 / 2:38 pm

      Thank you so much Melissa, it honestly means a lot! I know for some people it isn’t something they’re ready for and that is okay, but for some people it is the right decision, and I completely agree it is one of the best things I’ve ever done. I have the most fantastic husband and I’ve never been happier.
      I hope your marriage to your husband is the most fantastic ever!💜

  19. 12/01/2016 / 12:28 pm

    I’m 18 and will be moving into my boyfriends place very soon and have gotten a bit of backlash because of it and I’m definitely wary of telling people because I know I’ll be judged. I already know he is the man I will marry and if he popped the question next week I’d say yes but we’ve both said we would wait a few years I think simply because of what others will say and think which is stupid but I feel like especially if I announced on my blog I was engaged there would definitely be some judgemental comments! It is such a shame that we all can’t just do whatever suits us, not every life path or plan suits everyone and we can’t all be put in the same box! Fab post lovely xx

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      12/01/2016 / 2:41 pm

      Oh my gosh that is terrible! You’re moving in, and you’re ready for that step, and that is okay, it’s not down to everyone else! I am sure that you will adore living together, and the best bit is the fact that you get to wake up ext to each other every day! I mean honestly nothing beats it! 💜

  20. 12/01/2016 / 12:39 pm

    Hello! Loved reading this post. I will be honest with you and say that I’ve always been of the opinion that getting married in your early 20s is too young. However, not because the person is too young but because I myself feel in the position that I haven’t started my career yet (I’m doing law so it’s a long journey!), I have no money behind me (one to buy a house or two to spend on the lovely wedding we’d both like to buy for ourselves) and three just because in the next couple of years I have so much change ahead. But I think it’s truly dependent on your personal circumstances and the deep love you obviously have together is both beautiful and admirable and it was obviously the right thing for you. I wish you all the best and a lovely happily married life! xx

    Laura | laurakathren.com

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      12/01/2016 / 2:43 pm

      Thank you so much Laura! I completely agree, I think where you are in your life, right now it isn’t the right time and that is okay, and it’s not like in the future you might not want to, you will do when it’s right and you’re ready! Thank you so much Laura, it honestly means a lot, we do share a lot of love for each other, but we also understand our situation might not be the same as others and that is okay!💜

  21. 12/01/2016 / 12:45 pm

    What is classed as fun to one person, isn’t fun to another. Unlike most people my age (24), I have no interest in going out clubbing and drinking and never really have been, all of the best times I have had have been shared with my boyfriend who I know I also want to spend the rest of my life with. We aren’t married but it wouldn’t make a difference to my twenties at all, certainly not in a negative way. Some people are so small minded and I often find those people who are cynical are actually just jealous. My mum got married when she was 19 and she’s still happily married to my dad now. It’s not down to age whether you married works or not, it’s down to you two as individuals. Great post! 🙂 x

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      12/01/2016 / 2:46 pm

      I completely agree, I think if you’re an adult, you know what you’re getting in to, and it’s down to you how you live your life. I just wish that people wouldn’t focus on the negatives and look at the positive outcomes that could happen because let’s be honest there are so many!💜

  22. Laura Gale
    12/01/2016 / 12:52 pm

    This is lovely; I’m so glad I stumbled across it. I’m 21 and have been with my boyfriend since the week before my 17th birthday. I have had doubts about being so committed at this age, but those doubts are always raised by other people voicing their concerns. I’m not entirely sure whether I’m ready to get engaged, but I’m ready to admit that I’m looking forward to it xx

    Laura | Lala London: Beauty & Lifestyle

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      12/01/2016 / 2:52 pm

      Thank you so much Laura! I think everyone is at different points in their life, but you are clearly very committed to each other and you don’t need to be married to show that commitment, and you have a lot of love for each other and that is the most important thing! I hope you have a beautiful relationship and I wish so much love and happiness!💜

  23. 12/01/2016 / 1:49 pm

    That proposal story!!! Oh wow! I think you guys are lucky to have each other, your life together sounds beautiful. Haters to the left! I think it’s braver to commit to someone than to be afraid to commit – knowing what you want and going for it takes maturity (no matter what it is you want, be it married or single). The people who tell you “you’re too young” are terrified themselves of making a mistake, having FOMO, etc. Life’s big decisions do that to people! Love to you guys (I love seeing you both on Instagram, you’re such a cute couple!) we’re Twitter buds & I’m at meghansara.com

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      12/01/2016 / 2:54 pm

      Thank you so much Meghan, I saw you come up in my notifications and I was like yaaaayyy my favourite New Yorker commented! Paul and I are so committed to each other it is ridiculous, and we knew how big this decision was, and we have loved every moment of it! Love you girlie!💜

  24. 12/01/2016 / 2:57 pm

    What a lovely post! He proposed so romantically I practically swooned for you haha. I also agree that it does not matter what age you are when you get married; if it feels right then why wait? My Mum and Dad were married at 21 and are still together and my Nan and Grandad were married at 18! Congratulations hun and do not listen to what other people say 🙂 xo

    Emily | emsalice.com

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      12/01/2016 / 3:09 pm

      Thank you so so much Emily, it means a lot! I completely agree, I think sometimes age is just a number and people are just so quick to judge. Paul and I have so much love for each other, and so do many others who get married young, it takes time and hard work to keep a marriage going and by the sounds of it your mum and dad and your nan and grandad have incredible marriages! I wish them and yourself nothing but happiness for the future!💜

  25. 12/01/2016 / 4:42 pm

    Aimee the way your husband proposed is sooo cute! I hate typical proposals because they are all so clichè, so the fact he did it your own way and so beautifully done is amazing. I am so happy for you guys!

    I was engaged at 18, and even though i knew i would be judged i still said yes. I loved the guy and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Sadly, it didn’t last long and we broke up. But no matter how old you are, if you feel like it’s the right thing ans you will be happy, then you do what you want to do and get married.

    Congratulations and i hope you both annoy each other with love for the rest of your lives.

    Much love x

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      13/01/2016 / 11:20 am

      Oh my gosh Lauren, thank you so much! It means a lot! Look where you are now though, you’ve got an incredible partner and you have a beautiful baby girl on the way! Love you lots💜

  26. Jess
    13/01/2016 / 6:50 am

    Completely agree! Out of their group of friends my Mum and Dad are the only ones still married to each other…it’s not because the got married younger or older it’s because they battled through it! On NYE some woman who knows my boyfriends Mum was banging on about how he’s only 23 and he might still change his mind one day and want to “live his life” and how I should respect that and I was just standing there thinking “get your nose out!” It annoys when people give their opinions on your relationship when you haven’t asked! I hope you and Paul have a long and happy life 🙂
    Jess | http://www.juicyyyjesss.co.uk

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      13/01/2016 / 11:23 am

      Thank you so much Jess it honestly means a lot! I completely agree, I think sometimes it’s difficult for people to see that everyone lives their lives differently and that is okay! 💜

  27. 14/01/2016 / 2:10 pm

    I’ve always wanted to be married young and people think I’m insane! But you’re right, if you go back a generation or two it really isn’t that absurd to get married at a young age. My Nana was married at 16! And most of my auntie’s married at 18 or 19. It’s just normal to me and I think if people are viewing marriage as a hindrance to your life then maybe they are the ones who are not ready for marriage and not you.

    Congrats to you and Paul and what a beautiful proposal idea!

    Angi http://www.twodifferentworlds.com

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      14/01/2016 / 3:59 pm

      Thank you so much Angi, it honestly means the world. I completely agree that a lot of people view marriage as a hindrance, when in reality you can all have the same things and be married at the same time! I don’t understand how you need to make a choice! Thank you so much lovely, that proposal was definitely one to go down in the history books!💜

  28. 15/01/2016 / 9:43 am

    I don’t think it matters when you meet the special someone. One of my friends got married at 19. They have no been married for 8 years. My sister was 33 when she got engaged. I’m 25 and single. My point is, it doesn’t really matter how old you are. Some people meet the love of their lives when they’re very young, others meet them when they are a lot older. Amie, I am so happy for you and Paul and it do make me believe that there is someone out there for everyone 💕 I’m very excited to follow the rest of your journey, even if it’s just through the internet.

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      15/01/2016 / 11:14 am

      Oh my gosh Mia, I’m crying so much! Thank you so much for such a beautiful comment! You honestly do not realise how much that means! I completely agree with you! We are all on different paths in our lives and we meet people at different times, that doesn’t mean that we won’t eventually find that person we want to spend our lives with, it just takes time! Thank you so much darling! I love you so so much!💜

  29. 16/01/2016 / 2:32 pm

    I can’t totally relate to this, but I can a little. I’ve been with my OH for 5 years, since I was 20 years old and it’s never once crossed my mind that we won’t spend the rest of our lives together. We’re engaged to be engaged – at the moment, a ring, and a wedding is a little out of reach for us. But we know it’ll happen when it happens. But other people can be very judgmental on what is really none of their business. How is your marriage, or my relationship, anyone’s business? My OH and I have decided to start a family before marriage, and apparently that is very controversial as I’ve had a lot of backlash, people saying we should get married first, what last name will our kids have etc etc. And I just think, it’s none of your bloody business. Why do people feel the need to judge when you’re happy? As, clearly, you are. I think it’s great you married young; you’d found your soulmate and you married him. What is wrong with that? 🙂 xo

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      16/01/2016 / 5:02 pm

      At the end of the day, as long as you’re happy, your child is loved, it doesn’t matter about last names. The most important thing is that you’re happy, I don’t understand why it would matter if you had a child before you’re married, I think sometimes people can be so traditional and think it should be done a certain way. Personally as long as that person is happy, the child is loved and it is bought up in a loving environment that is all that matters, just because someone is married doesn’t always mean that a person is happy (not speaking from experience I am extremely happy with my husband). Thank you so much my darling, it means a lot! I am so happy with Paul, I have never known happiness like it!💜

  30. 20/01/2016 / 2:52 pm

    Amie you bloody lovely thing! This was so nice to read, I have a few friends who are engaged and getting married now and I think it’s wonderful! Martin, my boyfriend, always says he’s too young to think about marriage whenever it comes up – he’s nearly 25!! I don’t know where the misconception that your life is over and you can’t do the same stuff once your married – of course you can, just with a ring on your finger and the knowledge you’re with someone you love forever. Sorry this is so rambly, I just loved reading how happy you are and a big middle finger to all the people (including my lovely Martin!) who says it’s too young 🙂

    Teri-May xxx
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      20/01/2016 / 3:03 pm

      Thank you so much Teri-May, it honestly means a lot! I think sometimes everyone is at different stages in their life and that is okay! Even though Martin thinks he is too young to get married, you’ve still made a big commitment to each other and that is important too, in time you never know, but he obviously loves you and he is a very lucky man to have you. Thank you so much my lovely it honestly means the world. Sending you all my love💜

  31. 13/04/2016 / 10:17 am

    I don’t understand why age matters, like I could understand others concern if you were 16, but you’re not.

    But what I don’t understand is if instead of getting married you decided to have a baby, would they have criticised that the same way, as both are a lifetime commitment yet having children at our age is somewhat more acceptable than marrying and having a life together first.

    In terms of going out and and partying, do people realise that being in a relationship or married in you case doesn’t change anything, and going out and partying isn’t for everyone. As I rather save that money and go on holiday to different places and made memories (that I’ll remember in the morning) but if someone rather go out each Friday night that’s their preference.

    I really enjoyed the read, and I agree with everything you say! But why doesn’t it even matter what everyone else things as long as you’re happy what else matters

    X

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      14/04/2016 / 10:35 am

      Thank you so much Lizi! I did ask the people who commented on me getting married if it would be the same if we had had a baby and they said no because a baby is a baby. But to be honest I’m so glad that I did marry Paul, because I’ve never been happier in my life!💜

  32. 16/05/2016 / 10:45 pm

    Hey Amie This is a brilliant and heartwarming read. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness.

    Lots Of Love.
    Gayle XXX

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      17/05/2016 / 9:45 am

      Thank you so much Gayle, it honestly means the world!💜

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