Self Confidence In 2016

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Self confidence is something I have always struggled with, especially when it came to my size, I always felt like people were watching me, looking at me and that was definitely one of my biggest worries. Even at school I was still quite big, and I was still quite conscious of it, I’d still wear skirts if I had an ounce of confidence or I would just make sure I had a lot of water during the day. (Yes I was really unhealthy when I was at school, if I could send myself a message it would be don’t abuse your body, Amie.)

What Triggered My Increased Self Confidence.

I have to admit my self confidence was at it’s lowest before I started losing weight, not mentioning any names, someone very close to me said that I had put on a lot of weight. In all honesty, I had, however, I was going through depression, I couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel and I didn’t want to be here, so it was some of the worst timing imaginable.

The other thing was a lot of it had to do with my the tablets that I was on at the time, my eating habits were terrible, sometimes I couldn’t stomach more than a few ice lollies and others I would just eat practically everything in sight. 

It’s pretty safe to say I wasn’t exactly where I should be mentally, physically and emotionally, and my self confidence was so low I couldn’t see the sky. My husband would compliment me, tell me I was beautiful and that he adored me but the worst thing was, I never believed him because in my head all I could see were imperfections.  

During my weight loss  I started to see changes in my body, I started to feel more confident, I was achieving something which gave me so much confidence it was ridiculous, I was giving myself a brand new start. The food I was easing was making me feel fabulous, I found healthy alternatives to a lot of things which in all fairness really helped me because I could eat well and feel great which improved my self confidence. 

Want To Improve Your Self Confidence

In this last bit of my post I will be looking at tips which helped me  to improve my self confidence and get me to where I am today! 

1. Negativity Is A No Go – When you’re trying to build your self confidence, you need positive influences around you, this means you need to be ruthless with the people you are around. If this means cutting out people in your life, then you need to do this for you, why should your self confidence be effected? 

2. Change The Way you Look At Yourself – This might sound difficult but you need to focus on the positives of yourself, instead of saying oh I don’t like these spots I have on my face (everyone does unfortunately) say, I love the way I smile or the outfit I’ve chosen is really cute. Remind yourself of the incredible person that you are, you deserve happiness and you deserve the best. 

3. Don’t Listen To The Negative Voices In Your Head – The negative voices in your head do not know the incredible person you are inside and out. I mean honestly no one can measure the beautiful person you are in every way possible. Think of it this way if you’re thinking negatively all of the time, how do you expect things to get better? You need to change your outlook, you need to change the thought process that you go through in order for things to be better. 

4. Never Give Up – If you really want something then you need to work hard for it, it’s not going to come to you. Giving up is not your answer, think of it this way, nothing worth having wasn’t worth working for, the best things come to those who wait and give it their all. Give yourself a new quote to live by, never give up because I know I can do this. 

5. Make A List You Love About Yourself – We all have days when things are pretty rubbish and our confidence suffers, so when you’re in a good place write down a list of things you’re really liking about yourself, this will help you to see things when you’re having a difficult day. 

6. Be Kind – When you’re kind it gives you that self confidence,  that you can make others smile, that you have made an impact on their life and that they can see the incredible person that you are in just a few short minutes. That gives you that little boost you need on the worst days possible! 

7. Set Small Goals For Yourself – This can be little things like today you’re going to smile more, or go out and take more photos of nature, or go on long walks, whatever makes you happy, that always helps me because yet again you’re achieving something and feeling fabulous for it! 

What helps build your self confidence? Leave your responses in the comments!

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32 Comments

  1. 04/01/2016 / 11:12 am

    Your husband sounds like a gem! Your amazing Amie and I am so happy to see you gaining all this confidence over the last few months, I feel like you just keep going from strength to strength! Xx

    OliviaCheryl.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/01/2016 / 3:23 pm

      Thank you so much darling, it honestly means the entire world! I still have some bad days and that is okay, but it’s all about growing as a person and I think I have done that! I love you endless amounts Olivia!💜

  2. 04/01/2016 / 11:18 am

    What an amazing post! Your an amazing lady and anyone who tells you differently doesn’t deserve your friendship. I’m glad to know you <3.

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/01/2016 / 3:25 pm

      Oh my gosh Lauren, I’m crying! Thank you so so much my darling, it honestly means the entire world!💜

  3. 04/01/2016 / 2:18 pm

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      04/01/2016 / 3:26 pm

      Thank you so so much darling! It means a lot! I will arrange it soon darling!💜

  4. 04/01/2016 / 8:32 pm

    Sorry to hear about the negativity you experienced. These sound like really good and valuable tips though! Can definitely relate with some of your story. Hope you have a wonderful year 🙂

    Hana | http://www.hanarosella.blogspxot.co.uk

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/01/2016 / 4:47 pm

      Thank you so much Hana, it means a lot! I wanted people to realise that they’re never alone and whatever happens you can get through this! You to Hana, I hope 2016 is an incredible year for you!💜

  5. Tori
    04/01/2016 / 9:35 pm

    I used to have a notebook where I wrote down anything nice someone said about me then on low days, I’d read through it. Maybe I should start that again 🙂

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/01/2016 / 4:49 pm

      I completely recommend it, it is one of the greatest tools ever, words can’t describe how helpful I have found it! Please do let me know if you start it again and how you get on!💜

    • 04/07/2016 / 9:21 pm

      Ah that’s such a wonderful idea! Or have them in a jar and pull one out on low days ❤️

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        amiecadwallader@outlook.com
        05/07/2016 / 9:32 am

        I totally agree!💜

  6. 04/01/2016 / 11:18 pm

    You should be so proud of yourself for how far you’ve come missus! You’re a beautiful person inside and out, you always have been and I’m so glad you’ve come to a point where you see that! 💜 And this post has definitely given me a bit of inspiration to be a bit kinder to myself and take steps to help my own self confidence to grow!

    Love you xxx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/01/2016 / 4:51 pm

      Oh my gosh I’m crying my eyes out at your comment darling. Literally I can’t see properly, lucky I can touch type. Thank you so much for being one of the most incredible friends I could ever have wished for and supporting me through so much. I love you more than anything💜💜

  7. 05/01/2016 / 12:19 am

    There is so much great advice in this post. I had a major low point on my birthday this year. It’s always a funny day for me and then my hubby got ill the night before so we had to cancel all of our plans and I ended up going into work. I was almost in tears on the drive in that morning as I was so disappointed, but somewhere along the way I realised that I was making myself upset because I was telling myself I SHOULD be upset at the situation… so instead I told myself to have a fab day and be grateful for what I’ve got! I arrived at work with a big smile on my face and it never left. I ended up having one of the best birthdays ever. I’m not even sure what the advice is here – the power of positive thinking maybe? Haha!

    Laura xx | Loved By Laura

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/01/2016 / 4:54 pm

      Sometimes taking a step back and looking at the situation really helps, when it’s your birthday, I can totally understand being upset because you had so many plans for the day, it’s natural. I think having some positive thinking and being surrounded by the people you love really can change a situation. I think what you actually wrote proves a point and the way that you should think about things, you wrote the advice down straight away 🙂 I hope you have a wonderful new year and 2016 is a fabulous year for you and your husband!💜

  8. 05/01/2016 / 9:15 am

    What an amazing post Amie! I’ve had a lot of problems with my self-confidence as well, but what’s really helped me is to stay true to who I am. I always tried to be someone I was not, as I didn’t really fit in as the supersmart, nerdy animal-lover in the small town I live in. Embracing those sides of me has really helped lately 🙂

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      05/01/2016 / 4:58 pm

      Honestly what helped me was reminding me I didn’t need to fit into a specific box, which you don’t darling, you’re unique, everyone is unique! You’re an incredible person who lights up the people around them! Embrace the wonderful person that you are and enjoy every moment of it!💜💜

  9. 05/01/2016 / 10:08 pm

    I love this happy & positive post, girlie! Yay for a new year of a more confident you, me & our blogger friends! I love the part of advice on being kind especially <3
    xox Nadia
    http://www.mielandmint.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      06/01/2016 / 9:11 am

      Thank you so much Nadia, it means a lot! I am totally hoping that lots of people start 2016 with a big positive bang! Happy new year my love! Can’t wait to see what you’ve got planned for 2016! <3

  10. 06/01/2016 / 4:53 pm

    These are all really great and doable tips. During my weight loss, I used to leave little notes of encouragement around the house. On the fridge… “you can do it!” in case I was tempted to eat something bad. On the mirror… “You have beautiful eyes” to remind myself not to focus on the negative. Sounds a little daft but if you don’t encourage you, why should others? 🙂

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      07/01/2016 / 12:20 pm

      I completely agree darling! It’s not silly, sometimes I think we look for so many negatives in our lives because we are preparing for something like that rather than looking for something positive, I know that is exactly what I do!💜

  11. 08/01/2016 / 9:59 pm

    I really like these ideas, they’re things I’m going to have to keep in mind and try myself 🙂 let’s ignore the negative voices!! Tania xx taniamichele.blogspot.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      09/01/2016 / 10:08 am

      If you ever need anything darling I’m always here for a chat! When I wrote this post I was thinking of all the things that I should be doing and I wanted to share it with the people that I loved! Please let me know how you get on with this lovely!💜

  12. 09/01/2016 / 3:18 pm

    Such great ideas that are actually achievable and can work. Loving yourself is so important. We all should be kind to ourselves.

    itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      09/01/2016 / 4:46 pm

      I completely agree, I think sometimes we give ourselves too much of a hard time, which is an absolute shame because we are fantastic people and loving ourselves is the most important thing in the world. Life is way too short to not love yourself!💜

  13. 13/01/2016 / 2:16 pm

    I love these tips on self-confidence! Especially love the point about not listening to negative voices in your head, so hard to not do as well, so these points are a lovely reminder 🙂 xx

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      13/01/2016 / 2:29 pm

      Thank you so much Kathryn darling! I completely agree about listening to the voices in your head, it’s just important to put yourself first and remember what a fabulous person you are!💜

  14. 16/01/2016 / 7:12 pm

    The negativity you experienced really sucks, but it’s amazing that you’ve turned it around. Way to go girl! I’ll definitely be using your advice too, as I suffer badly from low self-confidence, thanks to family members who keep telling me I’m fat! So I’ll utilise your tips, and hopefully I will start to feel a bit better about myself! x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      18/01/2016 / 5:10 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so sorry that you’ve had terrible experiences that have caused you to have low self confidence. Please stay strong darling, I know you can do this, you’re beautiful inside and out so stay strong and positive!💜

  15. 06/08/2016 / 11:51 am

    This is so lovely to read, so glad you’re feeling so much more confident. I think working on myself helped me a lot too, I was really self conscious but eating better and exercising has started to make me feel so much better. It’s hard not to be negative on yourself but it’s the best place to start by stopping it! xx

    Tamz | http://www.throughneweyesx.com

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      amiecadwallader@outlook.com
      09/08/2016 / 11:45 am

      Thank you so much my darling! It is really hard not to be negative or have a negative outlook but it’s important to take it slowly one day at a time! <3

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