Body & Beauty Shaming
Over the last few months we have talked a lot about body shaming and how it is completely unacceptable for example the Be Beach Body Ready chat or the Stretch Mark Debate it’s actually about realising that we’re all beautiful and loving our imperfections. Kirsty over at Just a Little Bit Ginger (she is an absolute babe and one of my faves) actually triggered my thought process with this incredible post here. I promise you that you need to read it.
I looked on Google at some news paper articles which had actually been turning people away because they were supposedly “too fat” or “too ugly” I mean seriously? Since when was a person allowed to say who could and couldn’t come into a club because of their size or the way they look? Surely that is discrimination on some level?
I have read through a lot of previous newspaper articles, and there are so many articles talking about how we discriminate about our looks and our size, since when have the numbers on our clothes, or our facial aspects determine who we are?
Size Is Just A Number
That is the long and the short of it, that number on your clothes is just that, a number, it doesn’t define the person that you are, it doesn’t define the incredible person that you are, and also that number doesn’t measure how beautiful you are.
I know that there are some people in this world that would say when you get to a certain number you would think that seeing that number on your clothes would give you a kick a boot up your backside to change your life (I’ve been there and done that and it hurts) but hold up a minute, it’s your body it’s your rules, don’t feel like you have to conform to a certain society standards. Loving yourself is the most important thing in the world, when you love yourself your life is better.
A Different Perspective
Think about doing this differently, if someone was unable to walk and they weren’t allowed into a club or a public place there would be uproar, I understand that it is different, it’s not a disability and it’s a bit of an exaggeration but if someone can’t walk and weight can be controlled, however, it is still something that you really should discriminate against. I’m just trying to change the view of how people are treated and the importance of being treated fairly.
Everyone should be allowed to go wherever they like, not have to feel like they’re being persecuted for a certain size or looking a certain way. I think it is important to look at things like this simply because no one should have to ever go through this.
The Effects Of This
Imagine if someone said to you, told you that you weren’t allowed to go into a club or you’re not allowed to go somewhere because of the way you look or your size? How would that make you feel? Imagine you’re in front of a group of your friends and family, there is a queue of people behind you and you’re the only one that isn’t going in, that would knock anyone’s self esteem!
When I was younger my Nan (if you missed her post click here) told me that you could never be everything to everyone, everyone is beautiful, no one is perfect, and it might sound like a corny phrase but we all appreciate beauty in different ways, we all have our own types, for example when you like someone and you’re at school you are like oooh they’re my type, but just because you don’t find someone attractive, that doesn’t mean the rest of the world has the same opinion.
I know the phrase that not everyone is going to find you attractive doesn’t sound nice, but it proves the point that at the door of a club or a restaurant or any other public place as someone stands there and judges you, it doesn’t mean that what they’re doing is right, it’s actually disgusting and it shouldn’t be happening, but you are beautiful and don’t forget that.
I am openly a plus size girl, and I love every piece of me, I work out 6 times a week, I’m vegan and I eat healthy and have good portion sizes, but I am incredibly healthy, my weight might not be, but BMI is flawed, I am not saying I am 100% fat, I have very muscly arms and legs, but the important thing is, I love myself for who I am.
I am me and I love me if you don’t like me, that’s not my problem.
If you have had any problems like what have been stated, please get in touch, your voice matters!